19 days until surgery and I'm SO SCARED!! eek!!

I just do not want to die!! And sorry for being so blunt about it, but omg I'm scared.  I'm scared of being put to sleep and not waking back up, I'm scared of actually pulling through and then something serious happen, I'm scared of having surgery and then it not working, etc.  I'm just scared scared scared!!!  Aggh!!

*hug*  Its normal to be scared.  Surgery is scary, and if its not an absolute emergency its hard to willingly have surgery.  Have you ever been under before?  Just remember that your doctors are experts at dealing with people like us who are risky for surgery.  Then know what to expect and how to handle problems.  That being said, its scary.  You have every right to worry.  I was scared I would die.  I think most people are.  Try to think about the positives, focus on the things you want to be able to do, your goals.  And always remember that its ok to have second thoughts and third thoughts and 7000th thoughts, its totally normal, and if you happen to decide you aren't ready, that's normal too.  I wish you all the best and hope you keep us posted on how you are doing as your big day gets closer and how you are doing after. 

As long as you TRUST the person who's operating on you should be ok. One thing I banked on was them knowing how to handle when and if the **** hit the fan. I had several reasons why going under the knife was extra risky and I still did it because I KNEW I would be dead in 5 years anyway - if that. So the risk was worth it for me. It was scary, I wrote goodbye letters to my daughter and husband the night before, and told my hubby "if I don't make it back please know I was doing what I thought I had to and I am ok with this decision. Don't be angry because I *had* to do this." Ok I am crying now just remembering. lol. Anyway - fear is ABSOLUTELY normal. Do your share of the work - walk after surgery to prevent clotting (get up even if you don't want to), follow your food stages and don't eat something you shouldn't (bulky foods fresh post-op), and sip sip sip to prevent dehydration. Yes this is a big deal but if you want to do yourself a favor - REMEMBER IT ALL. WLS is not a quick fix and remembering what you went through can be a HUGE motivator. Or at least it has been for me. Because my scars have faded and I can run and play and eat and be merry. But it's those 8 little incisions that got me here and I should NEVER discount them and the hard work it took to get my life back. Hugs, we're here to listen my friend, Jenny

oh sweetie i know how you feel.. i was not afraid of the surgery but being knocked out.but i did it and things are so much better. when people where telling me you will be fine i thought yell fools its not you..i was wanting to back out and my family wouldnt let me. now i thank them for not letting me back out... i was in the preop room thinking man i wish i could run fast id be outta here ..but its all good now and im so happy and you will be too.. its best to talk about it with others who have had the surgery and they can calm you some..

Hey Lady I sooooo understand. just a week ago I was going through the same thing My surgery is in 6 days and I still have moments But I will tell you my perspective is this. what I would not give to get my life back. Not that I am not active now for my size. My size being the operative word. When I was thin I could walk for long periods in time love to go shoping and was always on the go. now I can bearly keep up with my family and my job and I always seem to be looking for someone to sit down. stairs are a nightmare. and turn styles bring me to tears and then there are chairs that I am afraid to sit in for fear that I will break them. People who die under anestiesia are rare It happens but it is very very rare. they odds are in you favor. as far as complications after surgery there are a possibilty but being big ladies and gentleman we could have those without surgery and our obesity limits our quality of life but also the amount left so the question for me was I was going to die someday but I am going down fighting hahahahahha. no seriously in the end WLS is personal choice listen to all our opions then make you own and what is and will be best for you. I send you prayers and good wishes and if you need to talk were here

It is a scary time for the reasons you've noted - surgery is risky.  But you've done your research, you trust your surgeon, and you decided that having WLS is your best option for living a longer, healthier life.  All that being said, it's absolutely normal to be scared; just keep talking about it, letting people know how you feel, doing everything you can to take care of yourself, and knowing you've made a good decision.   Lots of love and positive energy coming your way - Kellie