Ok My Turn!

I need to vent !!!  Well my 10 year old son came home from school yesterday and asked me if he could go back to his old school.   I kinda blew it off because he has many friends at his old school from scouts and I figured it was just because he wanted to go to school with them.  Well last night my daughter who is 17 came to me and told me that her brother wants to quit school because the other kids in his class are calling him Gay!   I mean really?  he is in the 3rd grade!  So i asked him if he knew what gay even was and I tried to kinda make light of it so he would think it wasn't a big deal. well he broke down and started really crying and told me that when he was at his "friends" b-day party he was pushing with the other boys and pushed a boy in his private area and that kid who was older than him stood up and said "don't be gay" and the b-day boy took that and ran with it... Now jacob is in a special ed class so there are only 10 kids in his class and out of 10 kids about 6 of them are perfectly verbal and Jacob named them all as saying this to him everyday at the lunch table over and over and like taunting him! well i'm pissed!!! First of all no one should ever be picked on for any reason and the fact that those kids even find in offensive to be gay means that their parents are, well, ********! Sorry but my 10 year old would never think to say "YOUR GAY"! and even think it would be something to pick on someone for.   Well I went right to the principal today and made a big stink and he pretty much told me he would make sure  it stopped today!  oh well I needed to vent because I can'y stand the thought of my little booger being picked on. and they are only doing it just to be mean!  and that is what really ****** me off.....ok i'll stop  Thanks!

Good for you, Mom!!! I, too, hate the teasing and bullying in schools.  So many parents take the attitude of "Boys will be boys," "They'll work it out", etc. I've instructed my daughter, age 6, that if she's being teased and they won't stop, to yell at them...in her huge huge outside voice.  If they hit her, she's to deck them and mean it! I will back her up 100%. There is no way I'm going to sit by and tell her to back down (haunting memories of my mother telling me, "you don't know your strength - you could really hurt them!" - yeah, so what Mom? They needed to be hurt!)

Damn SS, that blows!  I'm sorry your son is going through such an awful experience.  I had a period in 4th grade where I asked my mom if I could change school almost daily.  It was from being bullied.  I was fat and developing faster than anyone else (I was already my present height) OMG I had to wear a bra and then a girl found a maxi pad in my backpack - you can imagine that went over well.  Little girls are vicious.  My mom spoke to the teacher and principal, and I hate to say it, but things only got worse Kids are cruel little *******s sometimes, and they usually only move on from something like that once it gets boring.  I hope your son's school is much more effective than my school was in putting a stop to it.  I can understand your anger, when my little brother got picked on (he has some birth defects) I was irate and felt very protective.  Its wrong but I wanted to go show those kids a thing or two about hurt, ya know?  Ugh.  I still worry about him so much, especially since he's about to start high school.  Hugs, CO

Well the teacher called me today and she was like " I cant believe that those boys would act that way I mean they are all very good boys!"    well I just said "i was surprised too" anyway the principal called me and told me that each of the boys admited to saying it. he told me that Jacob was allowed to go into the room with each boy and tell them how they made him feel and each one apologized without being told too. I also spoke with one of the moms because one of the boys used to be very close to Jake . I told her to tell her son that Jake was not mad just hurt and he wanted everyone to be friends.   I'm pretty sure its about this one kid that is the "coolest" kid he was the b-day boy.  Jake told me that the principal told them all that if they continued to be mean they would lose their field trip privlidge.  Maybe it will work  I do think they went about it the right way. Instead of just getting mad they let jake explain how it made him feel. time will tell.  SS

I really like the way it got handled. So sorry your son had to go through this. Let's hope it all works out well!

You go girl... I think you handled it perfectly...:) Hopefully today will be a better day for Jacob :)

Wow good for you!!! I started getting fat when I was in kindergarden and that is when I started to be picked on. Through out all my school years I was a target . It was a small school only about 18 to a class so I know what your son went through. I was miserable alot of the time and I am ashamed to admit it but it was at that time that it got so bad I actually thought about ending it. Luckly I had a strong Christian back ground and good parents (who did try to stop it) and I found my inner stregnth but I was lucky one constant Bulling can cause so much trouble. Look at the school shootings. I am proud of you for sticking up for your kid I also like how your school dealt with it having each child hear what it made your son feel like. It gives me faith Good job

HEY ESTELLE,       FIRST OFF LET ME SAY THAT IT IS A SAD THING FOR SMALL KIDS TO HAVE SUCH CRAP THROWN AT THEM NOW DAYS... MY GRANDSON HAD A SIMULAR SITUATION A FEW WEEKS AGO WITH CLASSMATES... IT WAS HIS BIRTHDAY PARTY DEAL AT CHUCKEE CHEESE AND HE COULD ONLY  INVITE FIVE OF HIS FRIENDS FROM SCHOOL. WELL WITH FAMILY AND ALL IT WAS LIKE 15.00 A HEAD WITH PIZZA AND ALL SO HE PICKED OUT FIVE OF HIS FRIENDS AND THE OTHERS GOT SO MAD AT HIM WHEN HE GAVE OUT THE INVITES TILL THEY SAID THEY WOULD BEAT HIM UP... COME ON NOW... JEEZ.... OVER A SLICE OF PIZZA? HE WAS SO UPSET WHEN HE GOT HOME... HE IS ONLY SEVEN... MY GOD WHAT ARE THE PARENTS TEACHING THE KIDS YOU KNOW? MY DAUGHTER WAS FURIOUS AND YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT WITHOUT IT GETTING WORSE ON THE CHILD SOMETIMES... BUT ALL GOT TAKEN CARE OF AND ALL IS WELL BUT ITS JUST SAD TO TAKE AWAY A NICE TIME FOR SOMEONE... AND YOU CHILD IS HAVING TO GO TO SCHOOL WITH SUCH FOOLISHNESS.... JUST HANG IN THERE AND I THINK WAS HANDLED VERY WELL... IT JUST BREAKS YOUR HEART THOUGH TO SEE YOUR FAMILY HURT... UGH SNOTTY KIDS....HUGS MARGE