7 months post-op pictures

Thank you kago :)

I will have to deal with a jealous husband.  His insecurities are already showing a little bit, but we are working on it.  He's worried but I think it will be ok as long as we talk about it and I "stoke his ego" plenty and give him lots of love and attention.  You know you are going to have problems when you husband gets jealous that you are giving too much attention to the cat!

I thought I had already commented on your pictures, but alas no post from me is to be found? Amazing! You're doing great and what a difference. My hubby had his moments too, he used to get jealous of the attention I was getting from others, but he's nt the kind that would want it himself. Extra loving and kudos from you for him during this time will help.

Thanks Jan!  Hubby was taking it o****il he heard one too many comments about how he'd better "watch out" - I really wish people wouldn't say things like that in front of him.  I usually don't say anything but I knew it was bugging him so I said "he doesn't have to watch for anything, I'm his and he can't do anything about it!"  I hope it helped.   

MY hubby was asked by everyone including our family DR - what are you going to do when she gets skinny and leaves you? It would **** me off, I had to do so much damage control. People don't think about what they are saying. I tell hubby about all these years (17 married, 3 more dating) there is no way I want to train someone else ... and I'm sure he doesn't either.  He's stuck with me forever!

People DO NOT think about what they are saying.  I had a close friend say to me "wow you look great, its already such a BIG improvement"  Umm, I know she meant well, but I was rather insulted by the phrasing.  Its something like my passive-aggressive father-in-law would say.  And the people who say stuff in front of my husband, even if they are joking, which I'm not even sure sometimes, its just RUDE!  Sometimes I think its intentional, to put a little doubt and negativity into our success and happiness, just because.  Maybe I'm paranoid, but that doesn't mean people aren't out to rain on my parade! :)

And one more thing, haha.  Its INSULTING to both husband and wife when people say something about how hubby better watch out because it implies that no one would be interested in wife before because she was fat AND that wife settled on hubby because he would take her, but she wouldn't be interested in him once she could get something better.  It makes it sound like you both settled.  Again, I KNOW that's not the intention, but that's sort of how I take it anyway. 

That's exactly how I take it! It's insulting to me too.

Julie, Maybe I should have prefaced my other post to say that I was not referring to comments online.  First of all, its hard to read people from what they write.  Second, you assume, on here at least, that people are saying things with fully positive intentions.  I was talking about face to face interaction - comments people make to me directly, where I can read their expression, the inflection in their tone, etc.  Finally, none of my posts on here or in my other thread were referring to what you said.  You wrote "seriously" and made a matter of fact and true statement.  I am having to deal with a jealous husband already, and it will likely get worse.  Some of that is due to comments people make about how he better watch out, put me on a leash, or whatever.  I find those comments offensive, not your comment. I'm sorry if you feel like what I said was aimed at you - it was not AT ALL.  I apologize for any misunderstanding here.  Jenn