My Brother-in-Law Passed Away

Hi Kix, I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. (((hugs))) Diana

Diana, we'll take those prayers.  Thank you! Kix

i'm sorry to hear this kix. my thoughts are with you. deb

Thank you, Deb!   Kix

Dang, what is going in - I know two other people who have lost loved ones in the past week. It always seems to happen that way, doesn't it? All at once. Glad to  know his pain is no longer, but it still doesn't make it easier. I don't know, I'm feeling at a loss at what to say to anyone anymore. I felt a little overwhelmed today at work, everyone wanted to hug me and have me talk all about it. It was a little more difficult to get into the 'real world' than I thought it would be. So, just know I'm thinking about you all - that seems to work best for me. Oh, and I'm glad you gave me that big hug - it didn't bother my ribs at all. However, I have one friend who I swear was determined to squeeze every bit of breathe out of my body - now he hurt!

I know exactly what you mean -- when my mother died at age 70, I was still working.  I took a week off to deal with all of it, then when I went back to work, everyone had to hug me and pat me and have me talk about it.  I really didn't want to talk about it at all. One well-meaning colleague came into my office to comfort me, and burst out crying, saying she knew how I felt because her mother had passed away five years earlier.  All I could think was, "Please leave, now."  In a lame attempt to make me feel better, my district boss said to me, "Well, at least she lived long enough to see her children grow up and have grandchildren."  WTF?  I thought, "That doesn't mean I don't miss her."  To be fair, he had just lost his college-age daughter to melanoma a month prior to my mother's passing. Thanks for saying I didn't contribute to your rib owie!  Hurry up and heal! Kix

My condolences, Kix.  I'm glad your brother in law is no longer suffering, and wish you and all of your sisters well as you grieve.  *hug*

Thanks, Dunny.  It's probably a good thing I won't be at the burial.  I was talking to my birthday niece tonight, and she hadn't opened her gift yet because her husband wanted her to wait until later.  I wanted her to open the gift I gave her while I was on the phone with her.  I could hear him in the background being all bossy about it, so I jokingly told her he could kiss my big pink aZZ.  I didn't think she'd relay that to him!    She did, and now I'm sure I'm on hi**** list forever because he is an insufferable sod.    It turned out he didn't want her to open my gift because it would spoil the surprise (he bought her a nice camera and I bought the case).  All he had to do was say that instead of being all "macho husbandy" about it. Back to my brother-in-law, I'm glad he is no longer suffering, too.  Interesting thing about his family, they all died of lengthy, painful illnesses.  His younger sister passed away two years ago from renal failure as a secondary complication of diabetes, and his mom died from some sort of painful circulatory disorder.  Yikes! Kix

HEY KIX,        JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW THAT I SURE HATED TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR BROTHER IN LAW... AT LEAST HE WENT PEACEFULLY.. I KNOW IT WAS HARD ON YOUR SISTER. BUT AS YOU SAID, HE SUFFERED SO MUCH TILL THINGS HAPPEN FOR REASONS.... YOUR SISTER WILL TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU NOT GOING NOW...  AND ON DOWN THE ROAD IN OCTOBER WOULD BE A BETTER CHANCE IM SURE TO VISIT WITH HER AND YALL ENJOY EACH OTHERS COMPANY... JUST THINKING OF YALL NOW AND BLESS HIS HEART.....

HUGS MARGE

Hey Kix so sorry , your sister and her family are in my prayers. I think that it is cool that your brother inlaw asked for a Jewish funeral it was probaly to help comfort the ones he loved.   oh  yes Holiday bring out the spirtitual side of me too. There are all sorts of churches of all denominations in Denver. I remeber seeing the first orthadox Jewish people I had ever seen . Being from a small town I am a hick  I thought they were so cool but tried not to stare. That is what I miss living in a small town is all the different cultures.  Take care Kix and know that you are in our thoughts