August really has it in for me

OK… let us recap early events, and then fill in the new.  August started off with me having terrible gout, and not eating very well.  I was basically bed ridden and had enough bad experiences with food to make me despise the thought of eating ever again (a sentiment I still hold.  I HATE FOOD!).  Then my wife has our baby 5 weeks early, which is good and bad!  I love my little girl, but the week in the hospital getting her healthy enough to come home was tough.  While in the hospital my wife’s cell phone is stolen.  A week later I buy a new one and go on with life (although I could not afford the phone…  I am poor).  Ok now that we are caught up…

 

My wife’s old phone showed up, and we are returning the new one (HURRAY).  My uncle died, which happens to be my Dad’s only remaining brother, my best friends Dad dies a couple of days later, I miss the funerals due to my 2 month follow up, where I am told that my hatred of food is normal and to try and tough it out (like I have a choice?).  My wife is sick, and the baby enjoys waking me up every few hours so I can be dreadfully tired every day at work and school.  I am tired of my internship and either want a real career to get started, or to get into graduate school…  Neither looks very promising at the moment.  My wife and I still live with my parents, and have little hope of escape anytime soon.

 

In a Nut shell, August is out to get me!  I just hope September looks brighter. 

 

I love being a Dad and when I look at Arwyn my heart melts!  With out my wife and child and dog, I’d be truly lost.

 

Richard I

WOW Richard, your not kinding that August has it in for you... I bet you are glad that it is almost over. I am so sorry you are going thru all this.. just keep remembering your doing this for your wife and your new beautiful baby girl, as well as for yourself. Stay strong for them. remember we are always here for you to vent.. Lynn

Hi, Richard.  Although you are juggling a lot of things right now, try one of the old AA slogans - One Day At A Time.  You can handle anything for just one day.  You can't change yesterday, and you can't do anything about tomorrow.  And for most of us, one day is manageable.  It's like eating an elephant; it can be done one bite at a time.  So instead of focusing on everything that's going on, just focus on what has to be done today.  It's a great way to manage your life when there's a lot going on.   The other thing I do is to remind myself that in (3 months) (6 months) (12 months), things will be much better.  Keeping that light lit at the end of the tunnel can help you make it through each day.  Your life will get better.  Your wife's health will improve.  Your baby will start sleeping through the night.  You will finish your internship and get a career started, or you'll get in to grad school.  Will all these things happen tomorrow?  No.  But can you handle each day, one day at a time, until they all eventually happen?  Yes.  Absolutely.  You can do this.   Keep us posted on how things are going - we'll keep you in our thoughts and prayers... Kellie

Hang in there, Richard.  Weightloss surgery, infants, school, etc all get better and easier to cope with as time progresses.  September is right around the corner!  God bless.  Hugs, Tracy