CONGRATS! I agree with you 100% it is the little things

 I have been single for a long time, but my relationship with my friend-girl changed.  She has never had a weight issue, but she worked out all the time.  I worked out (not as often as she did) but I struggled with my weight for years.  After surgery, she would make little snide remarks.  She always presented them as jokes, but once or twice I could overlook.  All the time, I had to believe there was something behind the bites.

Also, I had to take an honest look as to why we were friends in the first place.  I will admit that I was in the friendship for mostly the wrong reasons.  Since moving back to my hometown, I had no one else to hang out with.  And because of my insecurities with my weight, I wasn't venturing out to meet other people.

One of the great things about this journey is all of the reflection I have had to do about me.  Why do I eat so much?  Why do I bottle my feelings?  Why don't I have any friends besides this girl? So, when the veiled insults started, it was clear what I had to do for me.

I don't know what the situation is with your relationship.  I hope that you are able to work it out.

Donna,
It is reassuring that relationships do not have to change. But I guess it has to start on a good foundation before the surgery. I'm starting to see some changes in mine. The signs were already there, but they are more apparent now.

In the pieces you posted I did not see anything about him suffering from complications from the DS. Personally, it seems like he may be suffering from the old "Bill Clinton" syndrome. I hope the best for he and his family.

Congrats SD123!...............I am excited and happy for you.  I know you've read everything about your procedure and are prepared for it.  All I can add is get ready for a life change for the better.  Pray often and do as your medical pros instruct you to do.  Know and listen to your body.  You know what's best for you.

I wish you well on your continued journey.  Keep us all posted often!......

JJ