Hi- I am trying this forum too . It's my first time on here. I am sorry you lost friends because you decided to change and they did not understand it. Use the word friend loosely because someone who is a true friend will be there for you. I did not have that struggle, but I did have others where family members kept pushing me to eat more or commenting on how small my portions were. People don't always understand the process of surgery and all the emotional trauma that comes along with it. We now have to deal with the real reasons we allowed ourselves to get to that weight and that will be for the rest of our lives. BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT YOU DID IT AND THAT THIS STEP WILL MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON. TRUST THE PROCESS. GOD REALLY DOESN'T GIVE US MORE THAN WE CAN BARE.Looking forward to keeping in touch.

Thanks for this - i will definitely try it. thanks again.

I have been on obesity help every since I had surgery. I did not know there was a black american forum!! Sweet! I think it is so cool that I can find a place on here with people who may (I mean May) be able to understand the struggle of having WLS and being black. With my expeirence some family members got pissed and stop talking to me. I lost a lot of friends because.. now "I think I am all that" When that is far from the truth. I am so much more insecure now than before. Where I am from being a big woman is not the worst thing ever. I had some health issues though and my body felt like it was falling apart at the end of the day I did not like what I was becoming. I made the decision. I am 12 months out and my life has gotten better for it.  Nice to meet you all and look forward to coversating with you all.

PS... I am starting insainty workouts so scared but excited I have 33lbs left to goal and want to look my best :) Anyone already doing insainty. I just decided today because I could not follow the eating plan of lift like a man at all it had my carbs and sodium way up there. (Not to add the calorie goal was unachieavable)  I read some other post on OH on doing insainty and following my RNY diet plan. I think I can do this. Excited and scared, but I know I am no quitter so.. I can't help but suceed. :)

HEY BossLady!!...............Welcome home!!......You've been missed!  I'm glad to see you back with us.  It is a very comforting feeling to know you can always come home to your fam.  Of course, just like family....we gonna talk about you too... cause that what fam does!...lol

But seriously, we all go through our own personal struggles and set-backs.  But the good news is that we have the choice to always pick ourselves up and give it another try.  We're here for you to vent, cry and blow off a little steam.  We're here to listen and help as much as we can.

Keep it moving!!

JJ...........

Thank you ladies!!