I just don't F #*@in get it :(
Girlfriend, its called dysmorphia. First being smaller you are forced to face that you were huge even if you were big, fat & awesome. You also see that having had major success with pounds lost, you are not thin and slender yet.
I'm sitting here with my legs crossed and foot wrapped behind my calf. Not a fat person's easiest position with thighs like mine. I'm holding a 135-140 lb loss. I'm dressed in size zero jeans. My belly looks like Pooh Bear and I feel like a fat slob.
You are not alone. If nothing else feeling big and sloppy makes me exercise and fight off weight gain. I hold up my clothes & they look normal. I put them on & I look huge. Before wls I thought I looked pretty fine yet I cringe looking at myself today.
Fight the head games. Remember you have come far and are still moving forward. Hopefully the mind will catch up to reality for us both.
I'm sitting here with my legs crossed and foot wrapped behind my calf. Not a fat person's easiest position with thighs like mine. I'm holding a 135-140 lb loss. I'm dressed in size zero jeans. My belly looks like Pooh Bear and I feel like a fat slob.
You are not alone. If nothing else feeling big and sloppy makes me exercise and fight off weight gain. I hold up my clothes & they look normal. I put them on & I look huge. Before wls I thought I looked pretty fine yet I cringe looking at myself today.
Fight the head games. Remember you have come far and are still moving forward. Hopefully the mind will catch up to reality for us both.
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Links: Are you a compulsive eater? for help OA meets on-line Keep Coming Back, One Day At a Time Overeaters Anonymous
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Size Zero?!
When I was coming up, Size 3 was as low as you could get!
Just goes to show...America is truly obsessed with thinness! Is there such a thing as negative sizes yet, like -1, -2, etc.?
I'm good with my size 14's. It's a long way from dayum near bustin' out of size 34/36! And that was cotton knit! Jeans or khakis were not even an option for me three years ago! I even have a couple pair of 12's, and I'm doing the happy dance! I'm bottom heavy, so even at my lowest, and once my excess skin is gone, I'll always be bigger on the bottom. It's a family trait!
If you feel good in zeros, and you are healthy, then that's all that matters. I'm only in awe!
When I was coming up, Size 3 was as low as you could get!
Just goes to show...America is truly obsessed with thinness! Is there such a thing as negative sizes yet, like -1, -2, etc.?
I'm good with my size 14's. It's a long way from dayum near bustin' out of size 34/36! And that was cotton knit! Jeans or khakis were not even an option for me three years ago! I even have a couple pair of 12's, and I'm doing the happy dance! I'm bottom heavy, so even at my lowest, and once my excess skin is gone, I'll always be bigger on the bottom. It's a family trait!
If you feel good in zeros, and you are healthy, then that's all that matters. I'm only in awe!
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Those anecdotes are a big part of why so many of us feel as we do about our bodies. It helps us avoid returning to where we were. But, we have to keep in mind that people *****gain it all have underlying issues be they eating disorders or metabolic that lead them back to obesity. We each have to address our own demons. That's why I keep Overeaters Anonymous links in my siggy. Its one venue someone may need.
For a site on obesity, compulsive overeating is conspicuously missing as a topic of discussion. Mention of it is met with criticism and riddicule more stinging than in the normal population. Perhaps because of the self loathing it conjures up in many of us, We talk about a vague concept of surgery not fixing the head yet fear addressing the non physical issues on these boards.
When I first found oh it was a very different place. No pretense that difficulty meant you were not ready for surgery. No pretense that it was possible to overcome a lifetime of behavior in order to be succesful with wl. Wls alone was not the only focus although it was a valuable resource. Today, we pat each other on the back for success and criticise those who cheat and struggle rather than give everyone the support they need. Many of us maintain but are still silently fighting the lifelong obesity mindset.
We each have to seek out multiple avenues to get ourselves the resources we need. We can and will make this work because we know something is wrong and we are not hiding from it. We need to stop hiding it from each other.
I am so glad you posted this thread. So many feel the same way but are afraid to say it out loud. You have helped a lot of folks with this.
For a site on obesity, compulsive overeating is conspicuously missing as a topic of discussion. Mention of it is met with criticism and riddicule more stinging than in the normal population. Perhaps because of the self loathing it conjures up in many of us, We talk about a vague concept of surgery not fixing the head yet fear addressing the non physical issues on these boards.
When I first found oh it was a very different place. No pretense that difficulty meant you were not ready for surgery. No pretense that it was possible to overcome a lifetime of behavior in order to be succesful with wl. Wls alone was not the only focus although it was a valuable resource. Today, we pat each other on the back for success and criticise those who cheat and struggle rather than give everyone the support they need. Many of us maintain but are still silently fighting the lifelong obesity mindset.
We each have to seek out multiple avenues to get ourselves the resources we need. We can and will make this work because we know something is wrong and we are not hiding from it. We need to stop hiding it from each other.
I am so glad you posted this thread. So many feel the same way but are afraid to say it out loud. You have helped a lot of folks with this.
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