I JUST NOTICED SOMETHING..

 Sorry my last reply ment to add to hours please read Ty :) 

Let me tell u what I did before surgery went to Dr to tell him I wanted it done STARTED TO RESEARCH AN found a site of people who had it an ran in to complications death etc (sorry just being ) honest after that I stopped completely I got scared found thus site LEARKED EVERYDAY got a call on a fri surgery scheduled Monday praised to God an that's all she wrote more to it but back to work will hit u up with part 2  later

I talk when I'm excited I can't help myself always been like that, for some reason when I'm happy about something I think everybody should be happy for me. I told a few not to many but I shortly stopped once I seen the haters lurking . Its a lesson learned the hard way.

That's what got me talking on here more often than I did last year. I feel like I can be me with no judgments.

 Well just know this is a place were u can spill ur guts say anything an we will listen because somebody will benefit trust me let it out I'll listen it gets frustration just wait till u start losing everybody around me hated when I was big but hated when I lost can't keep nobody happy just gotta do u it's a no win situation haters every where :)

**** you gonna hear:

Before Surgery:  
I know someone who had that surgery and died
I know someone who had that surgery and they gained every pound back
I know someone who had that surgery got skinny and left her husband
I know someone who had that surgery and became a ****

After Surgery:
Don't get to skinny
You look funny, your head looks to big
You look Sick
I hope she gets fat again  (they say this inside)
You know you shouldn't be eating that


AND MUCH MUCH MORE!

Funny that you mentioned this. I heard half of this already. lol  

Sweat the big ones.  They are not trying to discourage you and often times that is as good as it gets.  People simply don't care about the details but they still wish you all the best. 

If they don't get into the resarch you send them let it pass.  Its like the pregnant woman who wants to share it all.  Or the bride with all those wedding details.  Folks don't always get into it but they will welcome the kid at birth and dance at the wedding.  It may be dull stuff to them right now but it does not mean they don't care. 

Folks I've known for over thirty years had no interest in the details pre or post op.  The only comments ever have been you lost weight, you have not regained it. 

A friend who never said or asked squat was by my side at check in; spent the night in hospital with me; forced me to stay at her house after discharge (house & car keys held hostage plus out in the country without escape); then took me home when she said it was ok.  The only comment ever was a few weeks ago when she noticed that after three years I ate some things I did not touch before. 

Wls means the world to us but not to others; including and maybe especially the overweight.  It may not get better post op.  You may deal with people eating what you can't in front of you.  Some folks have major blow ups over this.  People argue that they still have to eat and we argue that its inconsiderate.   Wls is our choice.  What they choose to eat is their's.  Never the two shall meet. 

Folks loose friends over major life changes.  You have to be you and do your thing.  Give them the info but let them do the same.  Its a disappointment but it is ok for friends not to be into your major life events.  What's not ok is running interference.  Take their support and let them deal with information their own way.  

Brutel but honest truth..maybe I am happy but hell its bout time for me to shine. lol

I hear what you're saying I'm so full of emotions right now and I just want to share and get all the feed back from people I care about rather they against it or for it.

Thats why I come on here and share my feelings and reach out to you guys. Thanks for your reply