What if there is an emergency and I'm Fat

Hey Lee,

It's unfortunate for your mom that she can't see her way clear to accept you for who you are. She is missing out on having a close relationship with a wonderful person. I guess its clearer to me now how you would have reservations. Not only would you be self conscious about your weight but also about your life choice in that crowd. That's a double whammy. One thing that I have learned is that famly is a choice. If our birth families are not healthy for us then we have to find a healthy one and let our birth family serve as back up...not the other way around. How is Becca doing? Please tell me shes doing much better.

You are doing the right thing....focus on you! I look forward to giving and getting more support on the board..

ETA...Sorry I misspelled her name before.

i went though the same thing when i first had wls, except i had family sneer and not talk to me! people dont alway like change and family will find something to complain about no matter what!!! even after i have lost a ton of weight. at first i stopped going to family functions and snapped back at folk but i realized its their problem not mine. you have to enjoy your life on your terms, life is too short and if it were the other way around they would not be so quick to judge. as for the weight gain, all the worry could be stressing you out anyway, i wish i had some tips for you but i still worry about weight gain and try to stay on top of my vits and excercise even with surgery, its a never ending battle, but being with the person you love, enjoying life and being healthy should not be on your list of worries, go see your family girl! as for the weight, at least your realize you have to start to take control. just my 2 cents, hope things work out for you...

Wow I wish u live whr I live we could be buddys we share the same issue I was doing so good not anymore