Day 1: First thing I hear upon arrival YOU ARE FAT........... SMDH

Ok I showed you guys some of my pictures and you saw that yes I have gain and lost weight but why the **** would you come in and and say YOU ARE FAT to someone you have not seen in almost thirty years????

Stupid ******g asshole. Becca got pist, she was like what are you talking about she is not fat, then some more family come in and guess what his dumb ass says to them, YOU ARE FAT, By then I realized just how ******g ignorant his dumb ass was and told him the hell off.

Becca was worried about how it affected me I could see it all over her face but I was good and I handled it really well. Thing is it is so ******g annoying how the topic of conversation was so much about how fat everyone is, so dam annoying.


I need some encouragement y'all. I have to see even more family tomorrow and I don't know if I can hold my tongue.


Help.....

Hang in there, Lee! 

That was biting due to jealousy.  It appears in so many forms, including insulting other aspects & facets of someones life.  Nothing but a hater! Family or no.

You & Becca find some enjoyment in your time there & keep it moving!

Great pics of your vacation!

~Lynn

Thanks P Mom.

I wasn't surprised just did not expect it to be the first thing someone to say to me.

Stupid asshole.

Lee you know how people are, especially family.  You have been gone and doin big things, travelling around the world.  When people are jealous and can find nothing good to say.  What do they do, they attack.  The only sure thing is attacking your weight.  Not cause they even believe what they say.  But it worked.  You are above the pettiness.  Ask them for some weight loss tips so you can get the weight off.  Not many people can vacation as well as you do.  Haters can be family members too.  This too shall pass.
Take care and make the best of it.
Z

Thanks Z, your right and that is exactly what Becca said, because he said well when I saw your pictures of you in Spain or wherever the he'll you were you were skinny, just that or wherever the he'll you were showed his jealousy.

He is still an asshole though. LOL

Lee, what LifeBeauty said is so true.  Those who don't know how to deal with you on your level will seek to try and bring you down to theirs by any means necessary.  There avenue of choice was to attack where they felt you would be most vulnerable.  Don't allow their petty behavior to ruin you reconnecting with your family that you want to see.  Focus on the positive of your trip, like having Becca by your side whose got your back.  Plus....you only have to be there for a short while, and then you're back to a life they envy.

Enjoy your reunion!

J

Thanks J, your right and Z is also. I am just glad I have people to vent to who can be encouraging.

one of the many things i have experienced in this journey that i cant get used to, some people hate change and jealousy, that includes family and friends!!! obviously this person is uncomfortable because you are living your life happy and healthy and had to strike you where they thought they could hurt you, just keep enjoying your visit and try to ignore the jabs and if you have to tell a few people off in the process, its ok, family! you cant live with them and you cant live with them, oh i mean with out them!, hope things are working out..

Thanks Mel, and if I have to cuss anyone out today I am going to remember you gave me permission.

I am determined to remain positive this day.

Family or not, or maybe especially, some folks need to be insulting and that cannot be tolerated.  That's how they pull themselves up.  I bet the folks talking about fat were out of shspe and/ or could stand to loose a few themselves.  Glad you told him off.  

You can't let them have power over you.  That's why I say get something form fitting and rock that well toned body.  Show them fat vs muscle.  For YOU not for them. 

Yea yea yea, yada yada yada, I know what you're gonna say cause we've had this conversation.  Girl you got it flaunt it with pride.   They will be green with envy and you can look each one and say yea, fat my @$$, I got it going on. 

I'm thinking a close fitting jersey knit in a solid or understated pattern with 3/4 sleeves.  Knit sleeves will flaunt your muscle contours.  Princess line dress, skirt with gores or A-line and fitted bodice, each will show that houglass shape.  You'll be turning heads. 

This is the summer of the dress.  Hit up Kholes, Penneys, anywhere.   Look good, feel good!  Whatever you do, just say fkcu'em.  You're there to spend time with loved ones and all family ain't that.