I may be average fat now, but this still hurt.

Ok,  a couple of weeks ago, my cuzo's baby's mama  (whom I've never met in person) puts on her wall about how this fat a*** had the nerve to sit next to her, bump into her with her butt & had the nerve not to apologize &then on top of it all, took up part of her space, when there was allegedly a seat open on the other side.  Then one of her friends went on w/a comment rally until I stepped in and revealed that I was a formerly MO person and gave her that person's point of view. I gave examples of how i've been made fun of by both strangers, friends & family & how it hurt to see how someone couldn't have empathy for someone who has to deal with comments, stares & plain rudeness everytime they step out their house.

She apologized & immediately removed it from her wall.  But, I can tell that she didn't "get" it.

My reaction was so totally unexpected, that hurt as if she were talking about me personally.   I guess I'm still not far enough removed from old "Gi" to have those situations hurt. I guess I was reliving past experiences vicariously through this poor person.


How do you react to these or similar situations.  Do they still effect you?

Girl I hear you.  Some days I feel like The Defender of All Fat Folks, super hero wannabe.  Its one thing to criticise her lacking manners.   A simple pardon me costs nothing.  Its another to riddicule her body. 

We speak up in defense of race, religion, lifestyle choices, disability, addictions and substance abuse etc.  There is no reason to allow open season on fat people.  We are considered the last acceptable group to riddicule.  This has to change.  Keep on speaking up. 

I am still fat ,but not MO so I understand.  I feel the same way you do people do not get away with the hatred and rudness when I am around.

 Thanks for speaking up.  I hate when they go on Facebook are anywhere else  talking about someone weight.

I have never been able to tolerate any kind of derogatory or racist remarks.  So, have never been afraid to say something, but that's probably because being black & fat is way worse than any type of discrimation that one would face just being black, because you are fair game for EVERYONE,  because fat discrimation crosses all color lines & socio-economic lines.  So my empathy has always been high. 

But like I told her, hopefully other people read my posting before she took it down & will react differently next time.

 Some people just dont realize.  Being MO is like being trapped in a fat suit and the zipper is stuck.  I feel everything all the looks all the comments everything it is really hard.