My Brother Can't Die, I'm not Skinny Yet... HEAD ISSUES FOR SURE.
LEE
on 2/3/11 12:07 pm
on 2/3/11 12:07 pm
Hi Yall
I just found out that my brother who has the stage 4 lung cancer, had a heart attack, stroke, and seizure 2 days ago and his wife is just now telling us about it, he is in the hospital and they are fighting to save him.
Now why in the hell was the first thing I thought was he can't die now, I haven't lost any weight yet and I can't go home fat. I feel like the biggest piece of **** for thinking that, but it's what I thought.
I love my brother and i'm praying he recovers, but not because I am fat, but because I love him.
I feel so terrible that that was my first thought.
I just found out that my brother who has the stage 4 lung cancer, had a heart attack, stroke, and seizure 2 days ago and his wife is just now telling us about it, he is in the hospital and they are fighting to save him.
Now why in the hell was the first thing I thought was he can't die now, I haven't lost any weight yet and I can't go home fat. I feel like the biggest piece of **** for thinking that, but it's what I thought.
I love my brother and i'm praying he recovers, but not because I am fat, but because I love him.
I feel so terrible that that was my first thought.
Salty Pickle a.k.a. Lee
Its just a nervous distraction from what you don't want to deal with. Its easier (and familiar) to be upset over your body. The posibility of loosing your brother is something you'd rather not face so you pu**** out of your mind.
Have you ever dealt with folks who are all caught up in trivial bull**** Meanwhile, the **** they need to address i****ting the fan all around them.
(((((Big Hugs MsLee))))) Praying for your brother's full recovery.
Have you ever dealt with folks who are all caught up in trivial bull**** Meanwhile, the **** they need to address i****ting the fan all around them.
(((((Big Hugs MsLee))))) Praying for your brother's full recovery.
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LEE
on 2/3/11 12:30 pm
on 2/3/11 12:30 pm
I feel such stress in my chest right now it's ridiculous. I hope he pulls through this, he has been through so much.
A few years he had colon and prostate cancer, now lung cancer, his entire body seem to be prone to cancer. Poor brother.
When I was back there visiting a few years ago he refused to see me and it really hurt my feelings, never really found out why he wouldn't see me though.
A few years he had colon and prostate cancer, now lung cancer, his entire body seem to be prone to cancer. Poor brother.
When I was back there visiting a few years ago he refused to see me and it really hurt my feelings, never really found out why he wouldn't see me though.
Salty Pickle a.k.a. Lee
Not trying to play home psychologist but sometimes when we're not well we don't want to be around people. Some more than others.
You are strong, healthy, and athletic even with your joint issues. That could be a hard contrast for him to see up close. Its not so much the person, its more the contrast and/ or our frailties witnessed by that person.
Its like when I was hospitalized for this damned ms. I did not call anyone and let them know where I was. Only after I was released did I let anyone know I went to the emergency room. Every time I'm in poor shape, I want no witnesses. A few chronically ill folks I know are the same way. We'd rather be alone than have folks see how we have changed.
You are strong, healthy, and athletic even with your joint issues. That could be a hard contrast for him to see up close. Its not so much the person, its more the contrast and/ or our frailties witnessed by that person.
Its like when I was hospitalized for this damned ms. I did not call anyone and let them know where I was. Only after I was released did I let anyone know I went to the emergency room. Every time I'm in poor shape, I want no witnesses. A few chronically ill folks I know are the same way. We'd rather be alone than have folks see how we have changed.
LEE
on 2/4/11 2:45 am
on 2/4/11 2:45 am
I think he was to ashamed to see me. My brother use to be a psychiatrist and he use to always dog his wife for getting addicted to crack, well after taking the kids from her and dragging her through the mud guess what happened to him?? HE BECAME A CRACK HEAD, and lost everything, his practice, his job, his money, his car, everything.
The thing is at the time his wife was my best friend and when he was dragging her through the mud I told him that one day it's going to come back on him, Don't be surprised if YOU wake up with a crack pipe in your mouth. I know that has always bothered him because I spoke to him last 30 years ago on the phone and all he did was cry. When I was home my mom said that he was ashamed, because of what I do and because of what he lost.
He has closed all his family out, he refuses to talk or see my mom for over 2 years now, and he has nothing to do with anyone in our family. It is really sad that when he needs us the most he turns away.
The thing is at the time his wife was my best friend and when he was dragging her through the mud I told him that one day it's going to come back on him, Don't be surprised if YOU wake up with a crack pipe in your mouth. I know that has always bothered him because I spoke to him last 30 years ago on the phone and all he did was cry. When I was home my mom said that he was ashamed, because of what I do and because of what he lost.
He has closed all his family out, he refuses to talk or see my mom for over 2 years now, and he has nothing to do with anyone in our family. It is really sad that when he needs us the most he turns away.
Salty Pickle a.k.a. Lee
Aww MsLee, that is so sad. The best you can do is keep reaching out to him. A card with note to let him know you are all there when he's ready may be all you can do for him. 
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