How to Maintain Relationships After Weight Loss Surgery....if they are worth maintaining
Well...you did hit the nail on the head for me. I did not have much support before and only recently am I getting the support that I need post WLS...its been almost 7 years. I guess we do have to get to the point where we stop GIVING and GIVING. At least this is how it was for me...until I smarted up. People would always say to me that I give so much of myself...what do I claim for myself?...or what do people give me. When I finally realized that I was always getting the short end of the stick (by choice I must add), I realized that I had to make healthier choices. Today...I choose to be myself, I choose to accept no BS and I choose to love myself...and yes be a little selfish first so that I have enough of myself to share with the RIGHT people. Thanks for your insight.
Realtionship after WLS are a rollercoaster, to say the least. But for me, my WLS opened my eyes to a lot of things. Life is too short. I had to start looking out for me and doing what I wanted to make ME happy and not everyone else. So i left my marriage roughly 1 year after WLS and it was the best decision for me. I think it would have happened eventually even without the WLS, but WLS definitely brought me to the light sooner.
You only live one life, so i refuse to live it in misery or confined by expectations of others. There's a new me, in more ways than one. :)
You only live one life, so i refuse to live it in misery or confined by expectations of others. There's a new me, in more ways than one. :)
Highest Weight : 361 (pre-op diet) | Surgery Weight : 311 | Current Weight : 181
@ You only live one life, so i refuse to live it in misery or confined by expectations of others.
Before surgery there were two people that flat out did not want me to have the surgery. One was my son who is very much overweight. My son main problem was the possibility of losing me to death. Recently, he was just eating too much food so I mention it to him. He told me that he didn't have half of his stomach cut out. He apology but I didn't like it. He is proud of my weight loss and sometimes I can catch him staring at me in admiration.
The second person is a very good friend of mines who was my high school math teacher. She is like an older sister to me and she hated the fact that I was considering surgery. She often told me that people died from the surgery and make sure that my insurance policy was up to date. She was very negative. I slowly broke from her and her negativity and had my surgery. I recently saw her for the first time since surgery and she was very distance with me. I am at a place now that I just don't care. I did what was best for me and if she can't get with the program she can go kick rocks.
The second person is a very good friend of mines who was my high school math teacher. She is like an older sister to me and she hated the fact that I was considering surgery. She often told me that people died from the surgery and make sure that my insurance policy was up to date. She was very negative. I slowly broke from her and her negativity and had my surgery. I recently saw her for the first time since surgery and she was very distance with me. I am at a place now that I just don't care. I did what was best for me and if she can't get with the program she can go kick rocks.
Do not dwell on those things you've not, but gives thanks for the things you've got.
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