OT: Cross over from FB topic

 Aiight - I saw this on someone's FB page and it was interesting - but when I read the convo that ensued - I got pissed. 

Basically, the person posted a question of why do gay men date gay dudes who look like and/or dress up as women and vice versa for gay women who are femme and date studs or whatnot. They asserted it was counter to the 'point' or 'purpose' of being gay. 

The convo from those that replied was pretty judgmental - seemed no one *****plied was gay or knew anyone that was and it turned into a 'they must be kidding themselves' kinda exchange. 

Here's my thing - WHY are straight people so interested in and work so hard at labeling, deconstructing or trying to "understand" the feelings of gay or bi people?  Yeah yeah - we get that straight folk can't conceive of being attracted to the same sex - aiight - whatever - but just because it's not YOUR thing - what's all with the 'I don't see how you're gay if you date someone who looks like XXX"

Can I ask the same ? of straight people who date ugly mofos?  Cause I don't get that shyt.  What about straight people who date trifling, dumb azz mofos?  

My point?  It's a trait, a characteristic - if you got a dyck and like dyck - you ain't gotta only like dyck wearing Tims.   Just like straight men will date a woman who is so busted down, she should go BUY a dyck - but they love her broke down azz no matter what.  And if a chick dates a chick that rocks some Tims - doesn't mean she' in denial' about her love of dyck - she just like her puzzies with a fade...... feel me???

Can someone explain to me the need for the righteously right to front with one another about trying to understand and exactly what creditability in the 'crew' is gained from this bullshyt?

I guess since I don't care who you bedding down with it never was something I questioned. Just like on FB, I'm gonna sit back and see where this goes.

Everyone has an opinion and I do not allow too much to much get to me.  My response to them would be...Take six months to mind your own business and the other six months to leave everyone else's alone.

  Ok- I like that 6 month thing - Imma have to steal that one.

I rarely get 'chapped' about shyt I read - I realize some people have very limited mental horizons - I'll undo my chapp-ed-ness in a bit - but I couldn't resist getting just a lil itty bit off my chest. 

Here's my thing - WHY are straight people so interested in and work so hard at labeling, deconstructing or trying to "understand" the feelings of gay or bi people?

Because the voices in their head channeled in from Faux News, right wing religious church groups and zealots, and closeted gay members of the Republican National Convention tell them to do so.   Having said that, my only gripe toward gays is that they won't tell me how to get a parade started for folks like me who love big ta-tas.

And I say again.....

YOU STOOPID COLE!!!! 

MM, I'll confess that I have wondered why would a guy date another guy who dresses up like a woman rather than just dating a woman?  What part of the persona is he attracted to? 

The nuances of gay relationships is unfamiliar territory to me.   Differences breed curiosity.  It's just human nature.  It's difficult to know how to ask the questions without sometimes offending though.

Personally, I think that understanding helps to foster tolerance.

You've definitely given me some food for thought. 

Thanks.

Hey Sue -

Curiosity is cool - it's the 'oh, they are just kidding themselves' that ****** me off. 

Are vegetarians 'faking the funk' when they eat a veggie burger?  Technically, it's the same thing - you ain't eating meat, so why craft a veggie product into a similar model?

You could also ask the same straight mofos why they would date a non-girly girl.  What about the bruhs who date women basketball players?  Some of them bytches are just a lil 'rough' round the edges and don't meet the 'girly' standard that seems to be the vision of womanhood - are those bruhs fooling themselves and really want dyck?

ETA - I think what I struggle with is why must sexuality and attraction be limited and only formed based on genitalia?  Consider the Chinese theory of yin and yang. In that symbol - you have no idea what's male/female - only that one part balances the other.  Consider the same in relationships - regardless of the 'southern' regions - there's a PERSON in there - and it's the PERSON that gets fallen in love with - the exterior is just that.  Consider some of the most beautiful and alluring women in the world who are complete a-holes - should a bruh date one of them just to say the are with a p*ssy rather than follow their heart's drive to a drag queen?

Have you ever seen the movie Flawless with Robert DeNiro?  If not - give it a look see.

Are vegetarians 'faking the funk' when they eat a veggie burger?  Technically, it's the same thing - you ain't eating meat, so why craft a veggie product into a similar model?


I think it goes to motive.  If you're a vegetarian because of professed ethical reasons against eating animal fle**** does seem counter intuitive that you would eat fake meat.  If, on the other hand, you like meat but are eating vegetarian meals for health reasons, the substitution is totally understandble.


Have you ever seen the movie Flawless with Robert DeNiro?

No, but I'll look for it.

Ah ha!  Now I think I know how to 'splain it.

So are chicken burger eating folk wrong?  I mean - a HAMburger is supposed to be beef, right?  so they are altering the 'intended' purpose of the 'burger' too right?

A "burger" need not be defined as beef and two buns w/veggies and condiments.  After the 2 buns - it's pretty much open season for what's in between them.  Same 'difference' with sexuality.  The goal or definition of a relationship is a bond of two PEOPLE who love each other - no other defintion or dressing need be considered a 'template'.