Relationship Changes After WLS

Thank you guys for your insight, I am definitely going to try to get him a bit more involved with my journey. Yall are funny as all get out.  I will defintely be coming back to this board.

I want to preface that my experience is not or should not be considered the norm but I have heard of similar situations after WLS.
I had RNY GBS in 2006 and it was the best decision that I could have ever made. Right after my surgery (my weight came off really quickly) my ex-husband became obsessed with the who, where and when of my life.  I couldn't go anywhere without it being an issue.  I also had a few males friends as BFF's and that to became a problem.  In retrospect there are a few things I wish Ihad done prior to surgery.  But the main factor that I never had my ex's support prior to surgery should have been a sign that there would be problems after the weight started coming off.
Just make sure that your S.O. knows how much this change will make in your relationship and that its going to be a positive for you both.  Make sure your communication is open, open, open.
If you love one another unconditionally I don't think you should have a problem. 

Hell yeah my husband is jealous. We had problems in our marriage before the weight loss and it has gotten worse after the weight loss. It was even to the point where he filed for divorce.. That was back in January but we are still together(barely) sometimes I think I am better off without him but sometimes it is just safer to keep him. Never had thought about cheating on him until( I'll get to that later) I just loved the new found me and wearing the smaller tighter clothing. To be able to walk into a store and have someone open up the door for me instead of waddling my fat a$$ to the door and watching someone in disgust wondering why it is taking so long for me to get to the door. He used to come to the gym and peak in to make sure I was there. I have been trying for years to get him to come with me.. But when men started helping me work out then he wanted to come. He needs to loose a few pounds as well.

It's just something about being thin it brings out a new found glory of one self. If your marriage was in trouble prior to weight loss then probably it will be in worse trouble after. You think, look and act different.. Even though you may not think so but you do. My son wasn't helping me asking me to go to his college parties with him that I would have a great time.. Never went ... never wanted that bother... But just the thought of my son thought I looked young enough to hang out with him was enough. If you can save your marriage and it is worth the try do it.. But remember when someone else starts looking at you with lust in their eyes the man/woman what ever your preference is will be jealous..Jealousy is easy to start but hard as hell to stop! Personally I just enjoy life for what it is right now ..singing like Jill scoot..living my life like is GOLDEN ....

phew.. this is long be comfortable with thyself and let the Lord lead you in the right direction within a marriage.. I had to let go and let GOD handle my affairs.. I know that he won't lead me wrong but I know that I can't overcome any obstacle without his help!

Love&Peace

The "maintenance man" (read between the lines) that I was seeing prior to my BF became too jealous and crazy and it became unhealthy and I had to end our "relationship." It was the best thing ever because my BF is very supportive.  He makes sure the right foods are there for me even though I don't eat them at time and I asked him to call me on it when I gain weight and he did!

Maintenance man??  Is this the guy who fixes the electricity and/or plumbing? 

LOL...the plumbing...LOL!!!

i am with the majority! hell yes they all got jealous, family, the maintenance man too! i was very very surprised and this was not at all what i expected. i expected a lot of you go girls and i am so proud of you, but i heard a lot of how can you eat like that, you will gain your weight back, you took the short cut and the crooked eye! i did not expect to use this journey as a test to see who my true friends and supporters are but its turned into that, this has been an eye opening experience, i just thank God i still have my big girl fire and keep the flame on but i am tired of explaining to people why i took a chance to change my life for the better, i realize i am not the same any more and its going to take time for people who knew me to adjust, to everyone else i am this new person, but most of all i am happy with my decision to do something and be healthy, just my 2 cents...

Jealousy and smart a$$ comments definitely came into the relationship after WLS.  But our marriage was on shaky ground before WLS, I left my wife 4 months ago, but it had nothing to do with WLS at all.....so take it with a grain of salt. 

If you 're on good foundation, it really shouldn't be an issue, even if a little jealousy arises.  But needless to say, relationships can change a lot.