Relationship Changes After WLS

Did your significant other become jealous or extremely interested in your activities after your weight loss?  Currently my husband is a bit jealous (not in any way extreme), but my BFF was joking that he would be besides himself with jealousy after my weight loss.  I don't think so, but I am curious to see how other relationships have been affected by weight loss.

Hi there in Jax.  I'm in your area a lot of the time.

Let me preface with I am single and unattached (so what the hell do I know right, lol).  What I have noticed is changes in long standing relationships with men.  Some more interested; others not anymore because I am no longer their type. 

Your new physique will attract more attention and there will likely be some jealousy.  I've experienced it with casual male relationships.  How much will depend on DH's personality and how secure he feels in your relationship. 

WLS won't ruin a good marriage.  However the change in you may bring out issues that have festered below the surface,  Think positive, be positive. 

Now that's interesting, BFF is a male? And he mentions he would be besides himself with jealousy? Is he obese? The only people that was a bit jealous of me were my family members, sisters nieces, etc, they even told me to my face they were jealous of my weight loss, but only if they KNEW I had to work for every pound lost, they did not see me getting up in cold mornings running at 5am or talking brisks walks in the rain 5-6 days per week, when I explained to them that my surgery was ONLY a tool, they respected me a little better.

 Duhhhh! Have ya seen me?!?!? Just kidding girl! But, Hell yesssssss!!!!!! My marriage was already on the rocks and when I had the surgery it was ALLLLLL DOWN HILL from there. I couldn't do anything without being accused of cheating ( i didn't). I tried everything to save my marriage. Any trips or outtings with friends to clubs etc, I happily invited my husband. He would come and it seemed like he was enjoying himself. I didnt even trip when he was dancing with my friends in the club when we went to Vegas for one of my friends birthday's. Later he threw all that stuff in my face as if he wasnt' even there enjoying himself. Whatever! Anyway, we have a 5 yr. old son together and we are going through a long ass divorce. I will be glad when its over but, am I regretful of having WLS?!?!? HELL NAAAAAAWWWWWWW! Have ya seen me! lmao! Yeah, I love myself more than people think I should but, I have been to hell and back and I work my ass off to maintain. I have 3 marathons scheduled for this year. Best believe I am proud and wouldnt change a thing. If my soon to be exhusband was secure then we would still be together and I would NEVER think of cheating on him and I NEVER did when I was with him.

I hope this answers some of your questions and I hope I made you laugh a lil bit.

hugs!


~Catt~

I'm single so I don't give a flip about the whole relationship part of your answer......

what training program are you using to train for your marathons?  or were you already a runner?

My relationship with my husband has changed for the better.  I feel better about me so it reflects in the relationship. 

I am only a month out today. Mine decided tonight to bring up old **** WTF? Yes jealous, insecure, I dont know. They are male friends that he knows. My friends told me he would have a hard time and I believed it. I just didnt think it would come this early.

Wifey has verbalized to me that she is jealous on two occasions.  Totally not her style.  I notice she goes to the gym with me a lot, even though she's feeling tired.  I travel for work a lot sometimes, and she's always up on the who, what, when thing.

It's cute, but can be annoying though.

 Some jealously among spouses is expected and understandable.  Lol!

He's very interested. He's eating healthier and is now considering WLS. I keep him involved in my journey. I talk to him about my emotional WLS issues, planning meals and such. I do wish we could do more physical activities together. Due to his hip replacement, running and biking is out of the question. But we do enjoy our walks together.

Jealous? Not that I know of. When we go shopping, he's the one suggesting the smaller, shorter, tighter clothing