I need your opinion.....sorry, kinda long
Whaddup Kim!!!
My take: sounds like you're settling either way - both of the mofos in question have things that are lacking that are of concern to you - you're basically trying to decide what you will live WITHOUT by choosing either of these mofos.
*I* say - go for the gusto - go for ALL of what you want. Why settle now? You've had more interactions and experiences since WLS and your dating pool has deepened and broadened, right? Why does this have to be the end of the journey cause these two almost complete mofos popped up?
I feel you on wanting to decide between the two - but I don't really think either of them is really a 'choice' - they sound like nice current distractions - but sounds to me like your TRUE mate is still out there. #1 will have you broke and pissed, #2 will have you bored and resentful.
I know the solo thing gets old - I've been dating lately and chile.... WHOOOWEEEE - the game ain't nuffin NICE these days!!!! However - you were a stickler enough to demand better for your body and lifestyle - stick to those mental guns and double down at the dating blackjack table - worse outcome? You lose, but walk away having had free drinks all night and you're not gambling away the farm.
My take: sounds like you're settling either way - both of the mofos in question have things that are lacking that are of concern to you - you're basically trying to decide what you will live WITHOUT by choosing either of these mofos.
*I* say - go for the gusto - go for ALL of what you want. Why settle now? You've had more interactions and experiences since WLS and your dating pool has deepened and broadened, right? Why does this have to be the end of the journey cause these two almost complete mofos popped up?
I feel you on wanting to decide between the two - but I don't really think either of them is really a 'choice' - they sound like nice current distractions - but sounds to me like your TRUE mate is still out there. #1 will have you broke and pissed, #2 will have you bored and resentful.
I know the solo thing gets old - I've been dating lately and chile.... WHOOOWEEEE - the game ain't nuffin NICE these days!!!! However - you were a stickler enough to demand better for your body and lifestyle - stick to those mental guns and double down at the dating blackjack table - worse outcome? You lose, but walk away having had free drinks all night and you're not gambling away the farm.
I don't just have issues, I have subscriptions! I'm saving on the newsstand price....... 
Check out my dating mis - adventures at: http://1macdatinggame.blogspot.com/
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on 8/19/10 1:09 am, edited 8/19/10 1:10 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
on 8/19/10 1:09 am, edited 8/19/10 1:10 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
Mack Momma, I would agree with you on why settle now? This is 2010 and NOT 1999, the dating game is not like it used to be, going for the gusto nowadays may sometimes backfire and have you sittiing at home lonely on a Saturday night.
I played picky and stubborn myself when I was out there, and it only got worse, the more guys I turned down the worse my "pickings" became
, by the third year when I was Match.com I decided to totally adjust my choice of a man and focus on long term happiness, I did not care if he had swagg, the only thing I cared about was the following:
1. If he had a postive bank account
2. A decent job
3. Negative HIV
4. No kids I had to raise, I don't have any
5. Not a line of women to fight with.. I am not into drama.
6. Decent credit history
7. Own property
8. Not married
9. No prison record
10. Not secretly gay
11. Over 6 feet tall
12. Over 40
Hell... by the time I checked off everything I had Erik
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My word of advice, if you have a HALF decent MAN, and you WANT ONE....go for it and just slowly change the things you don't like, coz if you are seeking that PERFECT MATE he does not exists in 2010....
I played picky and stubborn myself when I was out there, and it only got worse, the more guys I turned down the worse my "pickings" became
, by the third year when I was Match.com I decided to totally adjust my choice of a man and focus on long term happiness, I did not care if he had swagg, the only thing I cared about was the following:1. If he had a postive bank account
2. A decent job
3. Negative HIV
4. No kids I had to raise, I don't have any
5. Not a line of women to fight with.. I am not into drama.
6. Decent credit history
7. Own property
8. Not married
9. No prison record
10. Not secretly gay
11. Over 6 feet tall
12. Over 40
Hell... by the time I checked off everything I had Erik
.My word of advice, if you have a HALF decent MAN, and you WANT ONE....go for it and just slowly change the things you don't like, coz if you are seeking that PERFECT MATE he does not exists in 2010....
Ummm - Ms. Match.com.......
who said anything about PERFECT?
What I SAID was........ of the things that ARE important to YOU - you make sure your list and needs are met.........
what happened to you is that YOU realized YOUR list was semi bullshyt and you adjusted it to come down to real life - that was YOUR process...... who's to say Kim ain't already there and these niccas don't make the cut????
and as for you and Erik - last I checked your posts - that mofo makes you happier than a pig in slop, don't sound like you settled and had points on your list that left you feeling like 'would I be happy with this mofo?' - so I wouldn't say you're in the same place with E as Kim is with these two mofos.......
JMO
who said anything about PERFECT?
What I SAID was........ of the things that ARE important to YOU - you make sure your list and needs are met.........
what happened to you is that YOU realized YOUR list was semi bullshyt and you adjusted it to come down to real life - that was YOUR process...... who's to say Kim ain't already there and these niccas don't make the cut????
and as for you and Erik - last I checked your posts - that mofo makes you happier than a pig in slop, don't sound like you settled and had points on your list that left you feeling like 'would I be happy with this mofo?' - so I wouldn't say you're in the same place with E as Kim is with these two mofos.......
JMO
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Check out my dating mis - adventures at: http://1macdatinggame.blogspot.com/
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on 8/19/10 1:17 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
on 8/19/10 1:17 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
Mack you are right, Erik is so so sweet, so I did not settle, he has been the best man that came into my life in a long long time....I was just joking and making a point! Finding that right guy is tough nowadays, I was out there for 3 years and I KNOW it is not a good place to be, but good men ARE out there it just takes time and patience to find them.
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Kim, you are so beautiful, fun and exciting. Why settle for either? I understand wanting someone special to snuggle in with AND I agree there is no perfect person (if I could only invent a "build the perfect mate" kit) but..who you are in your essence will not change nor will theirs. Was the overly sensitive, financially challenged dude always that way or is this financial issue recent? Has the boring dude ever been fun or was he always been more interested in the bottom line? People are who they are. So why settle? Equally yoked means in all ways.
amen!!! Equally yoked doesn't just refer to omelettes!!!!!
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IMO, from what you've shared, neither of these guys seems right for you for a long term relationship.
Looking at your descriptions of the two, your ideal man would have the positive attributes of each guy. Guy #1 is lots of fun, but he lacks maturity and financial stability and he hasn't mentioned marriage. Guy #2 is marriage minded, plus he has maturity and stability, but it sounds like you would be bored out of your mind if you had to be with him.
If I were you, I wouldn't jump out of the dating pool just yet. Nothing worse than winding up with the wrong person.
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