Warning: Controversy Topic - The Black Church Keeps Black Women Single and Lonely

Hey B,

That's OK! You know I still love you boo, you know it's OK  for you and me to have different perspectives on the Church, I DO believe in god and my both my parents were bible thumpers and if we dared questioned it we probably would have gotten kicked out of the house.

I hope you did not take this post to be offensive for those who attend Church regularly I know you are very spiritual and I would not want to hurt you in anyway, I just thought the article was funny and very controversial and a great topic that many think but some fear to talk about.

This is very interesting!  However, I don't agrue with the author's title.  I don't think that the black church is keeping women single and lonely.  Women not having an open mind is keeping them single and lonely.  Being an avid church goer myself and single,  I would prefer that my mate be in church and serving the lord just like I do.  However we shouldn't count out the spiritual brother that loves the Lord and not as committed as most women are in going to church.  

We just started our Single Enrichment Seminars on yesterday evening at church.  I will bring up this topic on our next meeting, I'm such it will be a great discussions.  

Michelle

Hi Michelle,

Thanks for your input, I agree that we shouldn't;t count out the spiritual brother that have god in his heart, I believe you can find a good man in the Church as well in the supermarket, but I think this article suggests that it is becoming the norm for a lot of black single women who are getting frustrated..

I think the biggest problem is the NUMBERS are just not there for every black women to get married to good eligible black men, that has been proven, black women outnumber black men 2-1..I think that is part of the problem and black women need to open their options of finding love elsewhere if they want to get married and be happy.

this is a very interesting article and i can see some valid points in all comments.

just to add my two cents:

It really bothers me that alot of people put more faith in the "church" than in God, and always try to box him in there.

The word says "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."

now what these things are is open to interpretation, and I think the articles' author as well as many other women who attend church regularly have become disillusioned because they are coming to church for the wrong reasons
and are not ready to admit that their main focus for attending may be to find a "good man.", when it should be to truly worship God.

The word also says, "do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers..." It does not say that they have to go to church; the main focus is on being a believer. And if someone is a sincere believer, then they will live the life of a believer because they want to please God. I interpret this scripture to mean that you must have some common beliefs on core things like spirituality, child rearing, finances, and yes, even how you worship.

I am a single woman desiring to be married if it is Gods will in my life. But i also understand that God is dealing with me and as much as i want to be married right now, i know that i am not ready yet. So i must be patient, and continue to focus on my faith and following what the lord says.

Poetrywoman, I agree people put more faith in the Church than they do in God...God can be everywhere and the Devil can also sit up in the Church every Sunday.

Whuh da bloodclot?!  Y'all would have a juicy-azz topic on here the very same day that I was out in the field and couldn't get to a PC.

I totally agree with the premise of this post - the black church IS keeping black women single but it's not the church's fault IMHO.  Check it... After the reverand, who's usually married, gets at all of the single sistas who are confused and need some prayer and counseling; the smoovy-smoove deacons making time with all of the giddy yet shy young women barely over 18; and "Twon" the choir director kicking it with the brothas on the down-low, it's a no brainer.  Feel me? 

Ok..ok...I will try my best to post really really good stuff during the middle of the week or on Fridays