OT: My friend is dying (a lil long)

# 1 MACK_MAMA
on 6/29/10 9:36 pm, edited 6/29/10 9:50 pm
 I just got the news yesterday - a good friend of mine (I have few) has been moved to hospice care.  It's a guy I worked with 2 jobs ago - but the crew from that job is tight - we still keep in touch, still see each other a couple times a year and keep up with one another through emails. 

Dude was off the chain in the day yall!!!  He was a trainer when I started there - and from the minute I hit his training class, we clashed.  I had my azz on my back because I was management and he refused to be overruled - I might be management, he said, but the training room is HIS kingdom.  And he tried to get me fired!!!!!!!  I had a Come to Jesus moment and had to bow down! But homeboy knew his shyt - was what Gordon Ramsey calls 'spot on' - I had to respect that.  

So much so that 3 weeks into the training, my grandfather died - we pulled him off life support at 3am - I still showed up for training at 8am.  He had a strict policy on tardiness, and I wasn't going to step on that.  He lit into me that day (I was a kinda smart azz - I know, unbelieveable) and after the first couple questions that I wasn't giving my usual 'punch' to - he asked me what was wrong - I was holding things together until that moment and I just told him 'I'm sorry - but I jus****ched my grandfather die this morning - I'm here - but I just can't be into it today, I'm sorry.'  He stopped class, pulled me out - gave me his condolences and told me to go and take care of things.  From then on, we had mutual respect for each other.  He taught me a lot in that moment about credibility, respect and professionalism.  I owe a lot of who I am professionally today to his example. 

So, cut to present times - that was like 8 years ago - since then, we have laughed and joked over time - at every get together he made it to - baby, we LIT it up!!!!  He's gay and OUTRAGEOUS!!!!! He's one of the people I can be out with and I can turn ME way up and have a blast - folk were known to make SURE they showed up if both of us were attending something.  He's off the chain funny as HEYLLLLL - he's hispanic and dates black guys and lemme tell you - the racial jokes we swap are legendary - he kills me with the commentary.........

I saw him about a month ago - he'd done his first round of chemo - stomach cancer.  He'd had stage 4 years ago and beat it down, but it's come back for him like Final Destination.  Me and my other homie got to the hospital and had to wear masks to see him, to not pass germs.  He'd asked my homie to bring him some watermelon (and yes, I did make a 'you been hanging with the homies so long now you cravin it joke) and he asked for it when we first walked in.  There was already a fruit tray from the cafeteria sitting nearby........

When the nurse came in after we'd been there a while - she asked him if that was watermelon he was eating.... um-hmmm was his reply.  You know you're not supposed to be eating that cause of treatment, right?  ummm-hmmm (smack, smack) he replied, along with a 'touch this fruit and I will smack the shytoutcha' look....... well, you know you could get sick right? she said.  Well, I have cancer - I think I'm already about as sick as Imma get, he replied.  She then saw the fruit tray and asked where that came from - he told her and then said 'So obviously Y'ALL ain't listenin to the doctor EITHER'

  I then realized he ordered that **** on PURPOSE! He didn't order it to eat it, he ordered it to prove a point!!!  So if they'd tried to take the watermelon away - he could say he'd have had it anyway........   damn that boy ain't nuffin NICE!!!!!  I'm still giggling when I think about that!!!!

Nevermind the fact that the 'no cell phones' sign on his room is not a hospital restriction - but HIS OWN...... he said he got tired of his Mexican family coming through with all the Mariachi and dumb azz ringtones........"cause you know hispanic people can't just let a phone ring"  

Oh - and the phone call from his boyfriend (who is Black) - he told him he would call him back in like 30min.  After he hung up, he looked at me and said 'you know that will be longer than 30min, right? But y'all already know - CP time is like an hour and a half, he prolly won't even notice'........ 

They moved him to hospice care yesterday.  We all know what that means.  He's the second person out of that crew we have had to let go - and...... I'm hurt about it.  I know it's 'the plan' - but the plan SUCKS. 

Thanks for letting me share - thanks for listening. 

MIDDLE MAN
on 6/29/10 10:24 pm - GA
Prayer going up MM . Hang in there!

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MzCookie Luscious
on 6/29/10 11:16 pm - Savannah, GA
(((((((((((Trina)))))))))))))))
shellyvette
on 6/29/10 11:25 pm - Pensacola, FL
Sorry to hear about your friend MM.  Praying for your friend and for your strength.  God is in control.

Michelle
A NewTay
on 6/29/10 11:51 pm
(((((((MM)))))))  i remember you talking about him before...good thoughts going out to you & him.


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Bridgett Gallow
on 6/30/10 12:32 am
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, I am praying for you and your friend.
        
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on 6/30/10 12:47 am - Fair Play, CA
Awww MM! I am so sad to hear about yoru friend. Good that hes keeping a good spirit...it does help..that and having good supportive friends such as yourself around will make a difference as well. Praying for your comfort.
nessabgood
on 6/30/10 1:12 am - Inkster, MI
Tahnks for sharing, I felt your pain and  your laughter,,,,lost my brothe in january and he was gay......the know how to give a nurse pure hell!!!!!  MY prayers and thoughts for you and your friend continuosly MM.
    
Faith *
on 6/30/10 2:09 am
(((MM)))) I am sorry to hear about your friend at the state he is in.  But,  I am happy to hear that you are able to reflect upon all shared fun times and you both truly enjoyed each other's company even after all this time.  Thanks for sharing this story with us and I agree the plan sucks.

People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown

Carol *
on 6/30/10 2:40 am, edited 6/30/10 2:44 am
Trina,
Sorry to hear about your friend.  Hang in there and remember the good times.
Carol
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