He said/she said...

Ayy yo,

I swear everywhere I look it seems like everyone is trying to tell me how to live my life and work my WLS tool.  Mama's got some advice; co-workers have some slick **** to say disguised as an opinion; even the building's janitor at the office has a comment or two from time to time.  To me, it sometimes feels like no one is truly satisfied with my decision to have WLS in the first place nor are they happy with the progress I'm making whether big or small, fast or slow.  Now I find that these sunza*****es are hatin on my maintainance plan after WLS. 

WTH?!?! 

Thanks but no thanks, Yo.  I'll go it alone, thank you very much.  Let me just live blissfully ignorant of all of the world's knowledge that you were obviously put on this earth to share with the rest of us.  I'll be aiight.

Anybody else having these issues?  Holla atcha boy.

What's up, A.A.

Here's what ya tell them (except for momma) . 4 simple words: "SHUT DA' FUGG UP!!" ("Mind ya damned business" might work, too, but I like the first one, better) 

What's up, Playa,

Yeah these folks are trippin, but ya know how it goes - they only talk because they don't know HOW to shut da fugg up.  Opinionated to no end.

I think the one that really bothers me the most is when people tell me about a friend of a cousin/neighbor/co-worker's/aunt's/toll booth operator/whomever had WLS and they lost so much more weight than you.  Like they really can compare our molecular makeup, body types, muscule structure all at a glance.

  

 

I think the one that really bothers me the most is when people tell me about a friend of a cousin/neighbor/co-worker's/aunt's/toll booth operator/whomever had WLS and they lost so much more weight than you. 



i feel ya--and dont forget about "so and so gained it all back"  or
"DIED on the table..."   

Right.  Exactly.

See that right there is some of the stuff that's said when folks don't know how to shut it up.  Just flappin their lips and bumpin their gums together in order to hear themselves talk. 

Man, the ones that get me are those who start off: "I had a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend's cousin twice removed who'd baby's momma had da' surgery and they DIED!!!!!" 

Me: "So what did they die of.?" 

Them: 'How am I supposed to know?  My cousin Boudroux told me they just got all skinny and DIED..." 

How do you combat ignorance like that?  Just smile and keep it moving...

How do you combat ignorance like that?  Just smile and keep it moving...


Exactly.  Because like the old saying goes: when ya argue with a fool, people from a distance can't tell "who" from 'who.'

Oh hell yes!  These issues have started popping up now.  As I struggle for goal I'm hearing the comments. 


Friday through Tuesday's comments:  

from one of my doctors, my surgeon's goal is too low and bmi charts are un realistic

from a close well meaning family member, you're 'small'. Translation: under weight 

from a close well meaning friend, for my age goal weight is too low and bmi charts are one misguided person's opinion.   

from a close well meaning friend, I'm struggling to loose in spite of surgery because my body is saying no more weight loss. 

from my church study group, there are no pounds left on me to loose and if I do loose those last few I will struggle to keep them off because my weight will be too low. 

Then of course the world watches what you eat to see if:

you can be a glutton through surgery, or 

you must eat like an anorexic forever in fear of food 


I'm working hard not to get mad.  I just do what I gotta do.  'Issues' are their little red wagon.  Let them pull it. 

from my church study group, there are no pounds left on me to loose and if I do loose those last few I will struggle to keep them off because my weight will be too low. 


Like they reeeeeeeeeeeeally know.  Some folks just have so much to say about things that they have no idea about in all actuality.  Sounds more like wishful thinking out loud to me than anything else. 

Keep doing you.  Ya know.

The funny thing about that particular comment was it came out of a group of thin folks.  People who have never ever been overweight. 

Forty something, military peeps, who had no choice but to keep their weight in that 'ideal' range being in the Airforce.  You would think since their careers depended on it, they would 'get it'. 

In reality they think no different from most folks.  Its acceptd as a given we should be heavier as we age.