What about this?

Suggestion... start going to a support group now; don't wait until after you have the surgery.

...and keep posting here on OH OFTEN. My skinny friends have been less than thrilled with my progress. Lackluster response at best. Prepare yourself mentally by creating a cheerleading squad who is rooting for you...


and as for the 'doing it the right way' comment.....I would like to let your friend know that when SHE is working out 5 times a week, drinking gallons of water daily and counting every calorie that passes her lips like I have to  (and I had gastric bypass 8 months ago) THEN and only THEN can she comment on the 'right' way to loose weight!

I totally understand and went thru the same thing... one friend even said she would have to be on her death bed to do it... like she was better than me...then over the she told me I would probably not get that small i am just a bigger person///WTH  How do you know you are not a doctor.  My other friends think that she is jealous.  I dont talk to her about weight issues anymore


Be encouraged!

I think there is a possiblty she may be scared of such a drastic measure.   I know that I have the same issue with some of my friends and family.   I also put them into the not educated about what happens and how having surgery will benefit me, section.

Surgery is a big deal and when you think of surgery it scares me.    It scares my kids, who were not on board when I started talking about it but I have been taking this time to educate them. They are slowing coming around.  

I try not to talk about it with people who are not so supportive of the decision I made.   That is the big thing, this is your decision and some people act like they must say something if they dont agree.    I kept it moving, I feel after the surgery, that is when you find out if they are truly friends. 

I know that my grandmother who is not for it, will love me after and take of care of me if needed.  So, I just don't talk to her about it now because it is a hard decision to have surgery and noone know your health, the pain, the critisim, ect that we go through as being big, she will accept it after anyway because she accepts me.       The same will go for friends.   Give them time, a true friend will accept no matter what you decide.