What about this?

I have been talking to my closes friends about having WLS. Now mind you most of them wear size 8 & below. & most of them are very supportive. One said that she don't like the choice I have made and wish I could lose it the right way. But she said she understands that I have to do what's right for me.   I didn't get mad at her bc she was honest about her feelings. But how about  my friend who is a size 6  said I don't think you should be worrying so much you don't look that bad. Are you kidding me? I make 2 of her. What's that about, feed back please.

Everyone's got an opinion and an @$$hole.  Feed back?  Why even bother? 

Most people I know think I never needed wls to begin with.  Actually, no one has agreed openly that it was a wise decision.  My one comorbidity is hereditary; all other health issues are not obesity related;  I have always exercised; I've always looked good.  To them I was not fat enough; I was succesful; I was confident; I was fertile; no fat stereo types to apply.  Opinion:  surgery unecessary. 

Now why would I care about their opinions anymore than I do their ********  This is all about you. 

Disclaimer-this is what I would do......keep my distance from that "friend" because I can promise you she will probably be the first "friend" you lose as a result of having WLS.  Trust me...you will lose many "so called friends" along this journey. 

But how about  my friend who is a size 6  said I don't think you should be worrying so much you don't look that bad. Are you kidding me? I make 2 of her. What's that about, feed back please.

There are several ways you might interpret this. 
1. Possible insecure female ...   She wants you to stay big because if you lose weight she's afraid that you will look better than her.

2. She knows you're big, but she lied because she thought it might make you feel better.  You know, like when a friend has an butt ugly boyfriend and you're trying to soften the blow.  

3. She's been around you for so long that she honestly doesn't think of you as being a fat person.  She just sees her friend.  

Time will tell.  Keep your eyes open, but don't write her off just yet.

I have great, great friends... but if I don't think they can relate, I just don't talk about it. I really don't want their opinion anyway.  I dont' know about your friend, but I have friends who are small, who just don't understand... So I just don't share that part of me with them. 

Try not to be discouraged... Just show them with your actions... and talk to us--Your OH! family!

We understand!

thanks for the replies, I don't think she was trying to hurt me but I told her that in order for me to happy the weight has to go. She really can't relate b/c she has never had a problem with weight. I try not to talk about it but I guess I just wanted the support of those who I'm around a lot. I agree that only time will tell if any of them will continue to be in my circle.

one very serious suggestion to you - anyone not giving you positive feedback now needs to be removed from your 'regular' contact list.

my mother did NOT support my WLS decision - for the first 9mos or so, I had very little to say regarding my efforts and issues - she was not supportive in her commentary.  I stayed plugged in with people who were my cheerleaders - my mom came around and is now very proud of me, but she wasn't let back 'in' until she said and did the things that showed me she was genuine.

This ish is hard enough WITH supportive people - don't put another road block in front of yourself.

I agree wholeheartedly with everything said!  You can't ask for feedback from people who do not walk the path you walk or have felt the struggle you've had.  You need to have a support group of like minded people who are now or have been where you are.   

I appreciate your replies. And I know that my friends will come & go that's life, but this is also a scary process for many of us pre-opers trying to make this transition. It's important to find the support in order to continue on the journey. Thanks for your support. I will continue on in my progress.