Sh*t folks say about WLS
"WLS is the easy way out"
When anyone tells me that me having the surgery is "the easy way out", I say hell yeah and what fool would want to do it the hard way.
They are usually stunned by the because that's not typically the reaction they are expecting.
I then go on to say...taking the easy way out is the American way. Shoot, you drove to work this morning instead of walking or biking, you use the microwave instead of oven, or use the oven instead of coal fire in backyard, you buy your food instead of growing them or farming them, you go to the hair dresser instead of doing it your self, you use computer/Internet etc. instead of library, you buy your clothes instead of making them, you use a Gardner/lawn man instead of doing it yourself
....I go on and on until I am tired of the look on their face that says "I get the point, now shut the f** up" then I add a few more and see what other comments they have.
if they say well all of that is for convenience, then I say the surgery was for convenience so that I could quickly loose 200+ pound in 2 years rather than waiting the next 5-6 years trying to get off that many pounds. I can now focus on maintaining and doing all the things I enjoy, hows that for convenience and not having to work as hard to loose, i can save the energy for the maintenance period.
"You are the only person I know who have been successful with the surgery"
What I have also found in the past few months is that lots of people are complimenting me on keep the weight off and saying "I don't know anyone who has been successful with weight loss surgery, they all gain the weight back". I am only 3 yrs out so I don't consider my self a success. I will be a success in 5, 6, 8, 10 years...
After hearing this a few times it got me to thinking...I thought shoot, I don't know anyone who lost the weight without having the surgery and have kept the weight off.
Now I have had this conversation with at least 6 people since thinking about it and I go on a full rant about how unsuccessful most people are with keeping the weight off. I am usually talking to people who they themselves are struggling with weight issues and have lost and then gained it back and more so they cant say ****
I go on to tell them its not about the "weight loss" per se, but more about what life style the person lives after loosing the weight and what they do to maintain. Its all about eating in moderation and exercising. I am a talker so I can go on and on about these issues until the people i am talking are sorry they even opened their mouth to say some dumb **** to me...
"I don't need the surgery, I can loose the weight on my own"
This is the one that kills me because these are the folks who know I know that they have been struggling with their weight for as long as I have struggled with mine and their asses still fat. I have not thought of a come back yet , a kind one anyways.
what about "well, whats keeping you from loosing it" and/or "I say go for because I feel wonderful now that all my weight is gone". I will of course say it in a matter of fact way. That will let them know that if they could have actually lost the weight and kept it off that we would not be having this conversation and I wont have to hear that bull**** no more either.
So what have family, friends and other fools said to you and what was your come back?
Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels!
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Imma have to steal that comeback tho, on the cool - that shyt is priceless. Mofos have been known to say to me 'How are you loosing so much? Are you smoking crack?' - then they giggle.
I keep a straight face and say 'Yes. But it's getting much harder to keep on track - I sold my TV last week, it was the last of the stuff I had to sell - I'll probably be ho'in next week'....... and walk off. But you already know my ass is crazy!
Actually - most folk who know me know how much I focus on my health and fitness level. They know I am a gym rat, weight training fanatic and a picky eater. Heck - no one has the audacity to suggest anything is easy for me after I tell them I am in the gym at 5am three times a week.
As for that 'I can lose on my own' shyt - the last fat ass that said that to me got "So I suppose that means you're a procrastinator then, right?"
........ mofo shut the *** up and walked off........
Opinions, just like ******** are had by everyone. ... And I have a wonderful asshole wls detractors can kiss.
I belong to an eating disorder related group that's all about the head issues. A supporter, fellow RNY'er and group member mentioned that I may not want to come out with it right away as some may view wls as as "softer solution" to eating behavior.
Well...FKCU them!
I am out and open and share my GRATITUDE for wls. Its all about what's right for me.
We are not fat for the same reasons. Therefore, as with any other medical issue, the solution and treatment need to fit the individual. I don't defend my RNY. There is no need to. I am all the evidence necessary. Why should I give a rat's ass what anyone else thinks???
I'm not quick witted enough for the snappy comebacks. But I sure do speak plain English very well. There is no lack of clarity when I'm through.
This is soooo good S! I will definitely plagiarize your statements on the "easy way out" ... I can't hardly "weight" to use them People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown
