For real though....where they do that at???
Let me gone ahead and get this whole intial hey how ya'll doing, nice to meet you, I'm new and all that jazz.......I prefer to get rght down to the nitty gritty.
Short & sweet I've been searching high and low for a website where people of color were undergoing my same experience and could lend a sista some serious advice on how it goes, comes, etc. and the struggles that exist particularly with women of color.
All that being said, tonight I just need to gone ahead and get it off my chest.
I just had my RNY and open procedure mind you where 3 hernias were located just below my navel while conducting surgery. I basically recovered in a very short time in terms of getting back to my normal activites, removal of feeding tubes, staples, etc. and I managed to lose 20 lbs in 2 weeks...yea yea yea blah blah blah, but here's my dilemma..
A) I need to know whose had the RNY and how did it affect your natural curves (ie hips butts thighs etc.)
B) If I'm doing so good and eating is not a problem for me, since I can eat pretty much anything without complication and my surgeron doesnt believe in a liquid diet, then why do I feel so depressed and discouraged?Am I the only one to feel this way?
hell naw can't be!
C) And last but not least how did people respond to you, I mean if one mo person tell me that I look so good now and that I dress better etc.....( cause P. S. and btw snitches I'm wearing the same dayum clothes I've always had in my effin closet ol gossipin heffas
).....like i wasnt fabulous before or like i wasnt rockin that ish i might scream I mean damn yes I'm losing weight but I've always kept up my appearance, never wore the same hairstyle twice change my look every two weeks and keep my nails, feet, and overall self damn well groomed so what the hell or they saying??? for real though... where they do that at??( am I trippin
probably so, but hell its how I feel so I'm sayin it 
)
But seriously though, I know this was long winded, but I'm seriously feeling discouraged, I see others who've lost more and hell I see those who have lost weight and still got they curvacious swagger... I'm so stressed and confused and I refuse to buy a damn scale or measure myself, hell I'll keep weight updates when I see my doc monthly and dietician bi weekly
.....
o yea and lest not I forget, my names Jessca ( no I) I'm a Leo, I don't do beaches I'm a bit of a sarcastic yet extremely charismatic chick, i've got an attitude that won't quit, but a heart thats bigger than Pacific Ocean. Getting to know me is easy, falling in love with my personality thats a whole other challenge....lol...but hey I'm worth it....Smooches
Short & sweet I've been searching high and low for a website where people of color were undergoing my same experience and could lend a sista some serious advice on how it goes, comes, etc. and the struggles that exist particularly with women of color.
All that being said, tonight I just need to gone ahead and get it off my chest.
I just had my RNY and open procedure mind you where 3 hernias were located just below my navel while conducting surgery. I basically recovered in a very short time in terms of getting back to my normal activites, removal of feeding tubes, staples, etc. and I managed to lose 20 lbs in 2 weeks...yea yea yea blah blah blah, but here's my dilemma..
A) I need to know whose had the RNY and how did it affect your natural curves (ie hips butts thighs etc.)
B) If I'm doing so good and eating is not a problem for me, since I can eat pretty much anything without complication and my surgeron doesnt believe in a liquid diet, then why do I feel so depressed and discouraged?Am I the only one to feel this way?
hell naw can't be!C) And last but not least how did people respond to you, I mean if one mo person tell me that I look so good now and that I dress better etc.....( cause P. S. and btw snitches I'm wearing the same dayum clothes I've always had in my effin closet ol gossipin heffas
).....like i wasnt fabulous before or like i wasnt rockin that ish i might scream I mean damn yes I'm losing weight but I've always kept up my appearance, never wore the same hairstyle twice change my look every two weeks and keep my nails, feet, and overall self damn well groomed so what the hell or they saying??? for real though... where they do that at??( am I trippin probably so, but hell its how I feel so I'm sayin it ) But seriously though, I know this was long winded, but I'm seriously feeling discouraged, I see others who've lost more and hell I see those who have lost weight and still got they curvacious swagger... I'm so stressed and confused and I refuse to buy a damn scale or measure myself, hell I'll keep weight updates when I see my doc monthly and dietician bi weekly
.....o yea and lest not I forget, my names Jessca ( no I) I'm a Leo, I don't do beaches I'm a bit of a sarcastic yet extremely charismatic chick, i've got an attitude that won't quit, but a heart thats bigger than Pacific Ocean. Getting to know me is easy, falling in love with my personality thats a whole other challenge....lol...but hey I'm worth it....Smooches
Its true, I'm no Superwoman. Despite the § on my chest, but the Woman in me is filled with integrity and the will to do the impossible, the desire to fulfill the dreams of the masses. 
Hi, Jessca. 
Welcome to BAF!
A) I need to know whose had the RNY and how did it affect your natural curves (ie hips butts thighs etc.)
I was an apple shape before. My proportions look much more balanced now.
B) If I'm doing so good and eating is not a problem for me, since I can eat pretty much anything without complication and my surgeron doesnt believe in a liquid diet, then why do I feel so depressed and discouraged?Am I the only one to feel this way?hell naw can't be!
Some people think that everything will make them dump and not want to eat. When they find out that this isn't the case, they become disappointed. You can still reach your goal even though you don't dump. Just be sure to follow your nutritionist's plan and you will be fine.
C) And last but not least how did people respond to you, I mean if one mo person tell me that I look so good now and that I dress better etc.....( cause P. S. and btw snitches I'm wearing the same dayum clothes I've always had in my effin closet ol gossipin heffas).....like i wasnt fabulous before or like i wasnt rockin that ish i might scream I mean damn yes I'm losing weight but I've always kept up my appearance, never wore the same hairstyle twice change my look every two weeks and keep my nails, feet, and overall self damn well groomed so what the hell or they saying??? for real though... where they do that at??( am I trippin probably so, but hell its how I feel so I'm sayin it )
I'd blow it off. Life's too short to stress over other folks' drama.
Welcome to BAF! A) I need to know whose had the RNY and how did it affect your natural curves (ie hips butts thighs etc.)
I was an apple shape before. My proportions look much more balanced now.
B) If I'm doing so good and eating is not a problem for me, since I can eat pretty much anything without complication and my surgeron doesnt believe in a liquid diet, then why do I feel so depressed and discouraged?Am I the only one to feel this way?
hell naw can't be!Some people think that everything will make them dump and not want to eat. When they find out that this isn't the case, they become disappointed. You can still reach your goal even though you don't dump. Just be sure to follow your nutritionist's plan and you will be fine.
C) And last but not least how did people respond to you, I mean if one mo person tell me that I look so good now and that I dress better etc.....( cause P. S. and btw snitches I'm wearing the same dayum clothes I've always had in my effin closet ol gossipin heffas
).....like i wasnt fabulous before or like i wasnt rockin that ish i might scream I mean damn yes I'm losing weight but I've always kept up my appearance, never wore the same hairstyle twice change my look every two weeks and keep my nails, feet, and overall self damn well groomed so what the hell or they saying??? for real though... where they do that at??( am I trippin probably so, but hell its how I feel so I'm sayin it ) I'd blow it off. Life's too short to stress over other folks' drama.
Blessed thanks for the advice, I do blow most ish off I just like to rant every now and again and get ish off my chest, but yea I havent experienced dumping or at least not to my knowledge. 
, but I will admitt that I feel like the fact that I have to eat three times today is very disturbing to say the least for someone whose used to only eating one time a day and drinking excessively....which you would also think would help with the 64 ounces a day but strikingly that ish doesnt do much at all.
, but I will admitt that I feel like the fact that I have to eat three times today is very disturbing to say the least for someone whose used to only eating one time a day and drinking excessively....which you would also think would help with the 64 ounces a day but strikingly that ish doesnt do much at all. Its true, I'm no Superwoman. Despite the § on my chest, but the Woman in me is filled with integrity and the will to do the impossible, the desire to fulfill the dreams of the masses.
Hello and welcome to BAF Jessca 
A) I need to know whose had the RNY and how did it affect your natural curves (ie hips butts thighs etc.)
My natural curves are gone. D cup is now a B cup. Hips are no longer round, just straight. Never really had as ass, but squats and yoga sure does a butt good. My thighs are thin, no longer thick.
B) I can eat pretty much anything without complication
What do you mean by "anything"? If you are eating the wrong foods so early out in the game, stop. Use your honeymoon time wisely by adjusting your eating regimen to include high protein and low carbs.
B cont'd) why do I feel so depressed and discouraged?Am I the only one to feel this way?hell naw can't be!
I was EXTRA emotional before and after surgery. Regrets, hormones and the "Did I really do it?" all set in and left me depressed. But that didn't last for long. Attend your local support group and if you are still feeling depressed or discouraged, consider speaking to a professional.
C) And last but not least how did people respond to you
I pick and choose. Criticisms fall on my deaf ears. Advice seekers are given real talk.
A) I need to know whose had the RNY and how did it affect your natural curves (ie hips butts thighs etc.)
My natural curves are gone. D cup is now a B cup. Hips are no longer round, just straight. Never really had as ass, but squats and yoga sure does a butt good. My thighs are thin, no longer thick.
B) I can eat pretty much anything without complication
What do you mean by "anything"? If you are eating the wrong foods so early out in the game, stop. Use your honeymoon time wisely by adjusting your eating regimen to include high protein and low carbs.
B cont'd) why do I feel so depressed and discouraged?Am I the only one to feel this way?
hell naw can't be!I was EXTRA emotional before and after surgery. Regrets, hormones and the "Did I really do it?" all set in and left me depressed. But that didn't last for long. Attend your local support group and if you are still feeling depressed or discouraged, consider speaking to a professional.
C) And last but not least how did people respond to you
I pick and choose. Criticisms fall on my deaf ears. Advice seekers are given real talk.
**Weight loss since June 08**
Hey lady,
Thanks for the advice, sorry to hear that you've lost the curves but thanks for the raw honesty. I've got a fairly big rear so maybe it'll just go down and get tighter with the squats lol ( at least I'm praying so, my butt is one thing I really don't want to lose and my boobs well I figure I can always buy a new set if it gets too bad.
As far as the eating when I say anything I just mean, that most people cant tolerate the breads, the ground beef or solid foods as quickly and as easily, but I can most of what I eat is sugar free, or very low in sugar as far as carbs, I'm kind of confused about that whole ordeal, simply because my diet regimen says to eat the breads, pastas, etc. just in smaller amounts. But to be honest I'm mostly a chicken and fish girl and my downfalls if anything are mashed potatoes, which I'm slowly getting tired of.
But I'm a big drinker( non alcoholic of course !!!) and so that for me is my biggest struggle because I hate all that powder ish
with a passion eff Crystal Light diet Snapple and all that other nasty ish lol ....hell I get so fed up I just drink plain old water and I'm still not at 64 oz. but what the hey its early in the game, so I've still got time and a chance to change things. I'm dissapointed I cant really work out yet, but hell I'm walking my 30 minutes daily.... I'm an over achiever.
OOO but one last question, saggy skin???? feedback please :-)
Thanks for the advice, sorry to hear that you've lost the curves but thanks for the raw honesty. I've got a fairly big rear so maybe it'll just go down and get tighter with the squats lol ( at least I'm praying so, my butt is one thing I really don't want to lose and my boobs well I figure I can always buy a new set if it gets too bad.
As far as the eating when I say anything I just mean, that most people cant tolerate the breads, the ground beef or solid foods as quickly and as easily, but I can most of what I eat is sugar free, or very low in sugar as far as carbs, I'm kind of confused about that whole ordeal, simply because my diet regimen says to eat the breads, pastas, etc. just in smaller amounts. But to be honest I'm mostly a chicken and fish girl and my downfalls if anything are mashed potatoes, which I'm slowly getting tired of.
But I'm a big drinker( non alcoholic of course !!!) and so that for me is my biggest struggle because I hate all that powder ish
with a passion eff Crystal Light diet Snapple and all that other nasty ish lol ....hell I get so fed up I just drink plain old water and I'm still not at 64 oz. but what the hey its early in the game, so I've still got time and a chance to change things. I'm dissapointed I cant really work out yet, but hell I'm walking my 30 minutes daily.... I'm an over achiever. OOO but one last question, saggy skin???? feedback please :-)
Its true, I'm no Superwoman. Despite the § on my chest, but the Woman in me is filled with integrity and the will to do the impossible, the desire to fulfill the dreams of the masses.
Well you are so very welcome, i wanted to know the answers so I asked and dont worry i've got plenty of questions to add... :-)
Its true, I'm no Superwoman. Despite the § on my chest, but the Woman in me is filled with integrity and the will to do the impossible, the desire to fulfill the dreams of the masses.
Howdy and welcome! You're funny - sure hope you stick and around and post more often.
To answer your questions:
A - I had RNY in Aug of 05. Started my journey at 386 and was 358 the day of surgery. I am at 200 today - lowest was 175 and I've had two plastic surgeries for my stomach and breasts. That said....... I am curvy - that 200lbs has a lot of muscle to it because I do weight lifting three times a week. I never had azz but I have killer hips and my legs can damn near shut a club down. My best advice to you as you lose is to EXERCISE!!!! Some get to losing after surgery and feel like they don't need to do anything - but get up and move your butt!!! and don't be afraid of weights - I truly believe it's what creates and helps you have a shape later.
B - hell naw you ain't create a whole new feeling. LOL. We've all been there - it's part of the process. Mentally you're 'divorcing' from a true love - food. While you can eat, you can't eat like you used to, and you may have used food as a comfort, friend or like a vice. You now have to alter your focus and lifestyle and that takes time - may be part of why you're feeling this way right now.
C - Most people were very supportive - I've been open about my surgery from the beginning mostly. and I got the same comments about my dress, hair, etc. Take it in and let it go. YOU may not feel you're different, but you are. and the comments are not a slight to your previous appearance - but you have to understand and appreciate the fact that folk didn't see you as you saw yourself. Looking at yourself through someone else's eyes isn't an easy mirror to face - especially when you come to terms with the fact that the image you thought you were projecting just wasn't as good looking to others as it was to you. So yes - to them, you were not that cute before. That may hurt, yes it does suck - but get over it.
Aiight - nuff talking from me! Don't be a stranger and keep up the good work!
To answer your questions:
A - I had RNY in Aug of 05. Started my journey at 386 and was 358 the day of surgery. I am at 200 today - lowest was 175 and I've had two plastic surgeries for my stomach and breasts. That said....... I am curvy - that 200lbs has a lot of muscle to it because I do weight lifting three times a week. I never had azz but I have killer hips and my legs can damn near shut a club down. My best advice to you as you lose is to EXERCISE!!!! Some get to losing after surgery and feel like they don't need to do anything - but get up and move your butt!!! and don't be afraid of weights - I truly believe it's what creates and helps you have a shape later.
B - hell naw you ain't create a whole new feeling. LOL. We've all been there - it's part of the process. Mentally you're 'divorcing' from a true love - food. While you can eat, you can't eat like you used to, and you may have used food as a comfort, friend or like a vice. You now have to alter your focus and lifestyle and that takes time - may be part of why you're feeling this way right now.
C - Most people were very supportive - I've been open about my surgery from the beginning mostly. and I got the same comments about my dress, hair, etc. Take it in and let it go. YOU may not feel you're different, but you are. and the comments are not a slight to your previous appearance - but you have to understand and appreciate the fact that folk didn't see you as you saw yourself. Looking at yourself through someone else's eyes isn't an easy mirror to face - especially when you come to terms with the fact that the image you thought you were projecting just wasn't as good looking to others as it was to you. So yes - to them, you were not that cute before. That may hurt, yes it does suck - but get over it.
Aiight - nuff talking from me! Don't be a stranger and keep up the good work!
First of all preciate the love mama and the advice and o ps and by the way Jessca Rabbit yea thats my girl, she's usually my decor for most things cause she's one cold piece of work....but in other news I will definitely be postin, I like to write talk etc....
I am afraid to lift weights but hell I figure at the end of the day i gotta tone up and o Lord I am afraid of having to have any additional surgeries for the excess but i guess you have to do what you have to do and should it happen I'll definitely wait till later I'm tired of the surgeries I've had several prior to this one and I just want to be surgery free...lol
I am afraid to lift weights but hell I figure at the end of the day i gotta tone up and o Lord I am afraid of having to have any additional surgeries for the excess but i guess you have to do what you have to do and should it happen I'll definitely wait till later I'm tired of the surgeries I've had several prior to this one and I just want to be surgery free...lol
Its true, I'm no Superwoman. Despite the § on my chest, but the Woman in me is filled with integrity and the will to do the impossible, the desire to fulfill the dreams of the masses.
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