I knew you were the one...

Was it his strong mind and good heart?  Was it her loving nature and sweet spirit?  Was it because she was so beautiful that it hurt to look at her or because he was so fine that he made you shiver just standing next to him?  Was it love at first site or was it a steady, growing feeling?  Did you have an unexplainable "knowing" from the start or did you need to be convinced? 

So...for all of you happily hitched, joyfully joined and blissfully bonded together people out there I ask, when did you say...."I knew you were the one"? 

***Note*** Gentlemen, we want to hear from you.  Get over worrying about looking weak.  Speak on it.

Can I start a 'counter' post to this topic?

as in......

what made you leave that mofo?  what was the last straw that let you know your next BREATH had to be WITHOUT that mofo?

 YES!!!   Girl, I did that one a few months ago!!!!! Real talk, the intersting thing was... how stupid so many of us were for even being the pustulating azzhole to begin with AND how LONG we ended up staying in that mess!!!   Mind blowing!

I've had "I knew you were the one" moments several times, then it turned out to be, "what the hell was i smoking when i thought that".... lol

!  Yeah, I have had those " it must have been a head injury" moments as well!

This should be a good one Glam....I am on my phone checking things out so I can't participate just yet...too hard to type BUT I am so glad I had "that" moment of clarity that let me know it was time for us both to get out of that toxic relationship....later sweetie.

Okay, post when you can, but be sure to talk about the moment you knew the man you loved was "the one" NOT the one to kick to the curb.  That's the next post.  !

You know Glam...the only problem I have is that so far....my perceptions of who was the "one" have been wrong. I look back and the things that let me know he was "the one" were so shallow now that I think about it. For instance, I knew he was the one because he made my heart skip a beat....but was that love or my hormones jumping. I knew he was the one because he was family oriented and came from a very close knit family (something I never had).....was that right for me to claim his family before I claimed him or he claimed me? I knew he was the one cause he had seeds AND my biological clock was stomping down the door!!!....was that right for me to look at the possibility of motherhood before really looking a what wife hood was about? We married in early July and our first child came in Mid May....I was 32.  Don't get me wrong...I loved this man with all my heart...BUT...he was not ready...and I knew it..looking back . I was ready for the wrong reasons. He got with me because his family loved me and he wanted to settle down....love for both of us came later BUT by then it was too late and we realized that we really did not know or even like each other that well. We LOVED each other but the only common bond was the kids. What kind of life is that...when you are living on two different playing fields AND neither has any interest in indulging in the other  one's "game" or life joys. For example....I love to travel and am very spontaneous. I will get up in a hot minute and want to go some where...explore a new setting....show the girls...things learned in class to real life.  He on the other hand was a planner...he needed notice for everything (or perhaps this was his cop out) and he would rather be stationery (And not go ANYWHERE)  UNTIL AFTER DARK. Then he would turn into a night owl and want to go PARTY. Coming from the Islands, he had the party thing down...used to staying up all night long until the crack of dawn. I tried to live that life with him for a minute but that got old real quick. I am not a party person. When 11pm comes, my eyelids close automatically...don't matter what I am doing...so I have to plan for it...LOL! So where did that leave him...partying til down with me at home...AND we know whats open past midnight....even though I had no reason to suspect he ever cheated on me. It was a source of contention none the less. There were other deeper things too...bottom line..WE were not compatible AND this created a LOT of friction. Now that we are apart...we are friends AND both live for our girls. We both are good people but not good when together. I want someone that will bring out the best in me AND I can bring out the best in him. So for now...I am just gonna let God work with me.

SO in a nut shell...I am gonna sit back and listen to the wise ladies. I have not been wise when it comes to relationships (2 college boyfriends, 1 husband and a few side kicks here and there). I do know what is NOT healthy and I am gonna listen to my conscience and leave it alone.

Mine was "a steady, growing feeling". I met my husband after  being divorced for over 20some years. At that time, I had told God that it was all up to him. What's the saying, "Let go, and let God"?. Well that's what I did. My husband is loving, affectionate, kind, generous to a fault, considerate, supportive, funny, thoughtful, sexy, and much more. When you least expect love to be in your life, that's when it knocks at your door. You might not think at first that's what it is, but give it a little time to evolve. I didn't think I'd be his "type" b/c his deceased wife was very slender and tall. Of course I've got the tall thing down pat, but the slender, not so much.  He told me b/4 we got married that he knew he was gonna marry me 3 months after we met! I was shocked at that admission, seeing though it took 3 years to get to the altar! I thought we'd last for a month or two, then it would fizzle out and we'd both go our separate ways. BUT, he won me over big time. He's the best husband for me. And the bonus of my daughter loving him also is the icing on the cake. Who says you can't teach an old dog (me) new tricks? Ruff, Ruff.....


Pre-Op -12lbs

WOW!!!   Now that's what I'm talking about!!   I love it when a man knows and claims you from the start!  I think most women want that.  Also, I think it is CRITICALLY important for us (all of us) but especially for us women to lift our men, to let them know why we fell in love with them in the first place.  So often all you hear about is somebody complaining about their man.  I'm over it to be honest.  Z, that was so beautiful.  Thanks sweetie!!