O/T need advice
"I'd say that you ought pray for the counsel of God and first deal with your issues with your husband as it relates to how you are NOT BEING TREATED like his queen. This needs to be resolved. Don't make it about her comment, but when you get the time to begin working on your real issue let him know that his 'phone call' only added insult to injury and could open the door for drama that you and him don't need.
I'd let him know that there's not enough 'love' to go around...it has to start at home before spreading it outdoors. What it sounds like is he could possibly be reverting to a comfort zone with someone he used to be with because your self-confidence intimidates him and makes him feel some kinda way. Some men can only love women who are clingy, needy, and difused of a sense of self worth and value. When we are overweight, they don't see us as a threat....in their mind we're not going anywhere. But through weightloss in their with the brains and some men can't handle it. His baby's momma may just be the person that makes him feel like he's still the man.
So again, work on your relationship with him and don't focus on her. Find out what's broken in the relationship and fix it. Men too have self-esteem issues and cheating is often an acting out action."
Well said!!! I agree 100%.Ravenbelle, I wish you and your husband the very best in working through this.
Situations like this really don't have a right and wrong answer. But, when things sometimes don't smell right at my house, What I will do is ... when talking to my husband in a casual conversation I mention the scenario but, tell him it's about one of my girlfriends and her husband. Or a girlfriends sister ... or other friend. Because I usually wanna get his perspective on the situation. Then I roll a question like ... Babe... do you feel like you need to be thanking your babies mama for raising your kid ???? Blah Blah Blah ...
Sometimes this work. But, as far as her givin him some. She can only give him some if he lets her. Now that has to do with you trusting him, under any and all situations. So, question to you ... "Do you trust him?"
Good Luck to you ... and I hope it works out for the better.
