O/T need advice

This is one reason I do not do Face book, I hide out over here; if I were you I would not really question him about what some catty woman posts on a website, if you have a solid relationship, don't mention it to him, action speaks louder than words, if he is treating you like a queen and you have NO DOUBTS that he is cheating on you...try to let the steam roll off and don't mention it to you hubby if your relationship IS solid. Let her post and brag all she wants maybe she is living in a imaginary world.

Good luck! 

because I'm NOT being treated like the queen that I am, went digging and found something..I don't know if she was bragging, per se, or really elated, that her bbd who is married, gave this random phone call of gratitude, so much that she considered giving him some?????WTF

Great advice from the Damsel in Distress!!

You, went fishing honey, Now you can't deal with what you caught.........

Advice, Don't go fishing if you can't deal with what you catch.

Tell her Phat tella!!!

First, I can't think of a wife and mother who gets a "thank you" from their loving husbands.   Not me, my mom, or either of my grandmas.   Watch sitcoms over the generations and mom is routinely taken for granted.  Men just expect women to be good wives and moms so rarely are we thanked for meeting the standard. 

Second, you acknowledge baby mama is trouble.  She posted because she new it would be read.  If not by you, by those who know you.  She expected this to get back to you.  You have no idea what was really said by your husband...  if he said anything at all.  

You know the history.  You know your man.  You can show him her facebook.  You can go with your gut.  Just keep control over your emotions.  Don't hand the control over to her.  She would love to be the one to drive the wedge between you and your husband.   

its two sides to every stroy...I would ask him about it in a calm manor because she might be lying just trying to get attention from anybody who will listen. Girl keep your marriage strong and dont let anyone come in between that.

Well.....I say...anyone that would post that on their FB wall ...only has one objective in mind...rebel rousing. I would take that all with a grain of salt..... unless you know something else that would  make you suspicious. of your man. Does not sound as if you are very trusting of him....forget about her for a moment.  Guess what.....just because she might want to give him some....does not necessarily mean that he would take it. She did not post anything about him....making advances to her....she knew not to cross the line. Please don't try and convict your man without having all the facts.

Its okay to stay alert....but I would not spend anymore time digging for dirt. Its negative and usually counterproductive.

I'd say that you ought pray for the counsel of God and first deal with your issues with your husband as it relates to how you are NOT BEING TREATED like his queen.  This needs to be resolved.  Don't make it about her comment, but when you get the time to begin working on your real issue let him know that his 'phone call' only added insult to injury and could open the door for drama that you and him don't need.

I'd let him know that there's not enough 'love' to go around...it has to start at home before spreading it outdoors.  What it sounds like is he could possibly be reverting to a comfort zone with someone he used to be with because your self-confidence intimidates him and makes him feel some kinda way.  Some men can only love women who are clingy, needy, and difused of a sense of self worth and value. When we are overweight, they don't see us as a threat....in their mind we're not going anywhere.  But through weightloss in their with the brains and some men can't handle it.  His baby's momma may just be the person that makes him feel like he's still the man.

So again, work on your relationship with him and don't focus on her.  Find out what's broken in the relationship and fix it.  Men too have self-esteem issues and cheating is often an acting out action.  You might need to play the needy role to get his attention again...possum playing aint easy...but the humility can go a long way.