O/T need advice

I'll try to make it short...I ran into Hubby's baby mama(son is 10) in Walmart today..She hadn't seen me in like a year..she goes crazy..like over the top sayin how great I look..blah blah blah..we have a horrible history..like a Hate/hate relationship..no reason, just cause baby daddy married me! 

So..because I live on edge, and am always suspicious, I went to look for her on fb, and I went to her wall(BEIN NOSEY) yeah..I know..curiosity killed the cat!!lol..So I goes on and on reading her wall...I get down to Feb 9, 2010 and she says on her post..that He(my husband of 6 yrs) called her to tell her that he loves her and she is a great mother to his son and thank you...she said it made her year, and she almost melted and thought about givin him some, but she had to hurry and end the conversation...so as I read that, my heart started palpatating, I'm sure my blood pressure went all the way up..and so forth..I am hurt, embarrassed, angry, devastated..all rolled into one..I don't know how to address it to him(he's not home yet)..I am so pissed! Advice please..

Most often when you go looking..... you find what you want.......

Loving someone and being IN love with them are two very different things.  If she is taking care of his child well - then he probably does and should love her for that.

He married, however, the woman that he is IN love with.

And that should ALWAYS be your 'trump' card. 

JMO

I mean - YOU are the woman he stood in front of God and the world and devoted himself to.

THAT chick had to post on HER OWN FB page some shiot you ASSUME was said.........

Ionknow - I mean - it all depends on what's really important...... How would I know - I'm single......

You are right MM..however I don't know if I've ever been thanked for taking care of our 2 kids and the I love you part..is out of bounds..I am so over this crap..I'm still hurt

Wow...........

I'm a single parent (assuming she is too) and to have had the mofo who's baby I had do right and supply house and home to provide..... man - this back breaker of a life I make happen everyday might be a lil lighter.

Not invalidating your feelings - they are yours for your reasons.  I'm just giving you perspective from the OTHER side of the coin....... take up some of these bills and help me raise babygirl - forget a thanks...... that mofo could tell me thanks and I love you NOW - hell - what does that DO for me???  LOL 

That did cross my mind...but All of those kind words to a b**** who has brought us NOTHING but drama for the past 9 years of my life...and did I mention she get a nice check for child support EVERY WEEK FROM MY HUSBAND! and a thank you/I love you on top of it..am i overreacting?? I don't think so..what is wrong with me...

I lost some weight, and have more confidence now...get hit on daily..I am kinda feelin' myself now..and I feel like I don't deserve this, and its hurtful..before I woulda dealt with it, been pissed and got over it..but her getting random calls from my HUSBAND that I know nothing of, is just crazy to me.. 

oh dang - ain't know all the back story - well - go with your gut!  LOL 

Great advice Mack!!

I dont know you personally just here in OH but some females are haters and she is just tryin to get under your skin. You are a better person than she is. She gets such a thrill about what her BBD says she needs a life.. She prob knew you or someone would be reading the post. I would just mention it to hub in a casual convo, dont point the finger at him as of yet, and see how he reacts to the post she made. Unless he is the type of man to play around, which I doubt it, but if you have been married for 6 yrs, his BBD is just looking to hate, since you look fab...Honey take it as a grain of salt, bru**** off your shoulders...But since you seem to be just like me, I would def bring it up to him.

thank you very much..I will bring it up..She's not my friend on fb..I was sneaking on her wall...and he knows that there's no way on earth her and I would EVER have a convo..so its ironic that this was said about 3 weeks ago, I didn't know he made that phone call to her..this is disheartening!