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on 3/11/10 4:52 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
on 3/11/10 4:52 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
Rhonda you are being blocked...you are nothing but trouble!!! GEESH.....
Hey Naomi...honesty...is the best policy in THIS situation...
My 50 cents....Yes, I read everything you wrote...and it seems to me...that you may very well not be ready to commit to your guy. Yes, you may love him...but, are you IN LOVE with him? I mean, IN LOVE with him deep enough that you would say NO to this other guy's offers. The other guy, it seems to me, is trying to sway you with MATERIALISTIC things...things that will DIE...things that he MAY or MAY NOT have to offer you...and, my question is...how can he be such a MAN when he is attempting to pull you away from the person you have committed to? There seems to be an underlying motive (on his part), perhaps a quest to see if he can 'get you where HE wants you...all for a few luxurious items.
Understand that before you make the commitment to your fiance...MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO STAY WITH HIM FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. If you do not feel that way toward him...if you have ANY doubts...then perhaps you need to cancel the engagement and figure out exactly what it is NAOMI wants.
Good luck to you...
My 50 cents....Yes, I read everything you wrote...and it seems to me...that you may very well not be ready to commit to your guy. Yes, you may love him...but, are you IN LOVE with him? I mean, IN LOVE with him deep enough that you would say NO to this other guy's offers. The other guy, it seems to me, is trying to sway you with MATERIALISTIC things...things that will DIE...things that he MAY or MAY NOT have to offer you...and, my question is...how can he be such a MAN when he is attempting to pull you away from the person you have committed to? There seems to be an underlying motive (on his part), perhaps a quest to see if he can 'get you where HE wants you...all for a few luxurious items.
Understand that before you make the commitment to your fiance...MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO STAY WITH HIM FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. If you do not feel that way toward him...if you have ANY doubts...then perhaps you need to cancel the engagement and figure out exactly what it is NAOMI wants.
Good luck to you...
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on 3/11/10 5:34 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
on 3/11/10 5:34 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
Thank you Donna for your advice you seemed to be a woman with wisdom and I really appreciate your feedback on this, sometimes we MAY love someone but not be truly IN LOVE with the person, I think and thought I was in love, my heart flutters when I see him, but I think I am going through some hormonal issues right now anyway that could be clouding my mind.
I guess with this other guy telling me I should not have to uproot my life to be with a man...and you are right this other guy may just want to get into my pants...which will not happen...I guess he just put a twist on things t make me really think if I am really ready to make that lifetime commitment, Erik has planned a date for our marriage and told me he wants to get married if I have not sold my place and the thought of us having to get married but live separate did not sit well with me...so I guess I am got all these emotions running through my head right now, and thanks so much for your advice that was sweet of you!
I guess with this other guy telling me I should not have to uproot my life to be with a man...and you are right this other guy may just want to get into my pants...which will not happen...I guess he just put a twist on things t make me really think if I am really ready to make that lifetime commitment, Erik has planned a date for our marriage and told me he wants to get married if I have not sold my place and the thought of us having to get married but live separate did not sit well with me...so I guess I am got all these emotions running through my head right now, and thanks so much for your advice that was sweet of you!
From past posts it seems you worked long and hard to find that Mr Right of yours. Mr RomanceToday here may be intersted only as long as it takes to achieve his conquest. Then what are you left with?
Sweet romantic gestures are always tempting. Just think how many times in life we are romanced vs how often the real thing comes along. I would tread lightly.
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on 3/11/10 5:47 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
on 3/11/10 5:47 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA
MSW you hit it right on the nail.....with this comment
Just think how many times in life we are romanced vs how often the real thing comes along. I would tread lightly.
You know something, I dated MANY guys before meeting Erik, -- MANY. This is why I get so worked up with people on this site having made rude comments about him being white. You know I am a very humble person in real life; I've dealt with the slicks, and men that ONLY wanted to "kick it".
It's IS hard out there perhaps your post was what *I* needed to slap me back in reality, I just realized it took me damn near 3 years to meet a man like Erik; I used to post my Match.com adventures on here and I will tell you dating IS an adventure. So thank you MSW for putting things back into perspective for me to let me know how precious Erik really is, I guess I need to just figure out how I will adjust to uprooting my life and moving out of state, this has been the hardest part of my decision to get married, I have to be honest though..but thank you again for making me think clearly.
Just think how many times in life we are romanced vs how often the real thing comes along. I would tread lightly.
You know something, I dated MANY guys before meeting Erik, -- MANY. This is why I get so worked up with people on this site having made rude comments about him being white. You know I am a very humble person in real life; I've dealt with the slicks, and men that ONLY wanted to "kick it".
It's IS hard out there perhaps your post was what *I* needed to slap me back in reality, I just realized it took me damn near 3 years to meet a man like Erik; I used to post my Match.com adventures on here and I will tell you dating IS an adventure. So thank you MSW for putting things back into perspective for me to let me know how precious Erik really is, I guess I need to just figure out how I will adjust to uprooting my life and moving out of state, this has been the hardest part of my decision to get married, I have to be honest though..but thank you again for making me think clearly.
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