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Good morning,

I have a question, as most of my friends know I�am engaged and pretty much "happy" HOWEVER, I never mentioned that I�constantly get hit on all the time, but I�have ignored it up until recenty.....with the job that my contracted just ended, there used to be a guy where I�worked used to hit on me all the time but I�sort of ignored his advances toward me, but one day when it was raining he offered to drive me to my car so I�let him and then he asked if he could take me to lunch the next day, I told him that I was engaged and was pretty much "happy and in love".

This was about a month prior to my contract ending, so he took me to lunch the next day and pulled off my coat in the restaurant (which I was really not comfortable with) since a lot of my co-workers was at the restaurant and KNOW that I was engaged to another guy. I�think this guy KNEW what he was doing since HE KNEW I was engaged and when we walked back to the building he tried to hold my hands and I pulled back and told him I am not ready for that and then he said� "you are not married yet". So I gave him this dirty look.

Then he would send my emails at work asking for my home number and I would not give it to him, I wanted to keep our relationship strictly business and platonic and at work.

So fast forward three weeks ago, I got word that our contracted ending and that was abruptly and I�had to quickly search for a job and I met this guy in the hallway near the lab where we were bothing working, he is a "software engineer" too but he worked for another division and his contract was stable until next year and then he told me to give him my resume and he would submit it to his company since he knew personally knew all the "movers and shakers" in his company and he would promised he could get me a job there.

So I gave him my resume which required me to give him my home number too, I went on some interviews with his company and�I got a call from his companies HR department and they actually offered me a job, BUT...I had already found another job by the time I�received a job offer from his company.

So after all of this, this guy seem to be REALLY INTO ME....talking me to lunch several times and offering to take me to romantic places and so forth; he even sent me pictures of his big house that he just purchased and he only lives 5 miles from my subdivision, I told him about me and my fiance and me having to move and sell my place before me and my fiancee can get married since my fiance lives in another state and we decided to compromise and move halfway in northeast Maryland.�

Then this new guy tries to persuade me NOT to get married and he would treat me like a queen and I could rent out my condo and move in with him since he has a huge house and then he� tells me his is retired military and his military pension pays for mortgage and I did not have to do much if I moved in with him, I mean this guy is REALLY aggressive with me and I have told him the DEAL, even when he calls me I don't return his calls., I am honestly getting confused and (tempted) since this guy lives near me and I will not have to move to another state if we got together and he makes MORE money than my fiancee, but my fiancee has more assets.....a few properties....

He is about 3 years older than me, about 6'0 tall slim; and told me he would quickly replace�my ring with a bigger one....��

Now I am honestly so confused...I have not been returning my finacee phone calls in the last day and I know he is worried, I just have a lot on my mind and I just don't know what I am thinking these days....

So I am SURE others have been in my shoes...is the grass ALWAYS greener, I've had no doubts about my current relationship up until now since I am being tempted by this other guy who lives near by....Can anybody else related to this? Is the Grass always Greener?


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