Don't ask a question

if you may not be able to accept the answer. Yesterday, my mother and I was in Loews. My mother saw an accquaintance and behold she looks at me and responds everytime I see you (Pink)  your even more beautiful. Awww! As humble as possible, why thank you! So, she continues what are you doing? I respond, drink water. She looked at me as if I had stabbed her or something. Truth is I am drinking more water and protein shakes. She says, What are you doing for the weight loss? I say, Jillian Michael's protein shakes. She replies hmmm. Now, if I wanted to be really upfront I could say genes cuz truth be told I had a beautiful face from day 1 thanks to my momma and poppa but then that might have been rude in the eyes of others. Why is it that a lot of black folks ask what are you doing in reference to appearance and when you say genes they take offense. When  I encouter white people they say you have some good genes-see they know. My point becareful what you ask for you might just get the correct response.

My thing is why can't people just say you look great? I get questions from different ethnic friends such as what did you do, are okay, are you sick? Why can't I just look good and healthy why do they automaticly assume I have some catastrophic illness? They ask you as if they are going to follow in your footsteps, we all know they are not likely to do any of that.

EXACTLY! Just say you look good and keep it moving or don't say anything at all. Just a bunch of nosey ass naysayers! 

Pink...

Since I'm still a "newb" and I just threw a fit  a few weeks about this might not count... but Give your answer and move on. You don't owe anyone any explaination.  And as you stated even when you give the response and it isnt what they want to hear they will just act as if you are lying.. So give your response and tell them to kick rock. It 's becoming more and more apparent that we will encouter ignorance on a daily basis! lol

Jkeeton81,

Man! Even if I give them the answer their going to probe and probe and probe. Alas, my next response will be I have sex everyday either with myself or someone as it puts me to sleep fast and  keeps my skin glowing and radiant .

You are telling nothing but the truth girl !!!! They just look at me when I answer the question and move on. I don't have time to stand in the store and tell all of my business and most of the people didn't speak to me when I was fat so why should I stop and tell them everything now. I tell them what they need to know for their health and keep it moving. They are going to talk regardless.

Neenaj, is that you lovely legs?

That's me Pinkster.

I just love you guys!

I'm so tired of going into a long drawn out summation of my RN and lifestyle (behavior changes) to folks I barely know, don't really like, or who I know don't really care for me. So from now on my reply to these folks will be I work out and eat right, end of story. I'm 14 mos out of surgery and I've loss 142 lbs. I'm proud of how I look wearing a size 10 jeans. But that's just icing on the cake my greatest success so far is eliminating high cholesterol, joint pain, and diabetes. None of the nosy people ever ask about my health, or well being just what did you do to loss weight. From now on I'll tell them, I workout & eat right.

Viv

I just tell people( strangers who don't even TALK to me on a reg basis) the truth. I work out 5 times a week, drink at least 64 oz water and drink 3 protien shakes a day. This is what I tell the NOSY A@@es *****ally don't care and want to be in some1's business.