To Pursue or to not pursue

that is the question. This board is so freaking dead! Anyway, I work in an environment where I encounter a lot of good lookin fish (black, White, Single, Twins, etc). I was promoted to a position earlier this year. Now, as a single, intelligent, beautiful black woman do I pursue or let it be known that I am interested in being pursued or stay abreast from romantic relationships in the work place. Mind you I encounter them don't necessarily work with them side by side on a daily basis... it depends.

I say "why not?" ...at least you know they got a job!!!! lol

You've got Spirit! Yes, you do!

  Things can get messy when you mix business with dating.  I prefer to keep my personal life separate from my professional life.

and that's what's keeping me back most of the time ....the mess that can evolve!

Hubby #1 - Grew up with him. Knew his family. Went to church with him. Married him. It only lasted three months. He was an EPIC FAILURE.

Hubby #2 - Met him at work. Worked in different departments. Was hesitant about mixing work and fun. I took the plunge and I don't regret it. We were not the first married couple at the company. The only thing that changed was the insurance. We couldn't keep double coverage. I did leave the company shortly after marrying him. We stayed together until his death in 2005. 

Almost #3 - Met him at a work conference - we work in the same field. Met him again at business association dinners, I was pleasant. Met him again on a dating site (yeah...I often leave that one out when I explain to folks how we met ) and it's been wonderful. I was laid off last October and was offered a consultant spot at his company. He arranged it and I declined. He's a sweetie as my man, but a "TYPE A"rsehole when it comes to being a boss. 

Awww Wonkad! Thanks for sharing YOUR story. Tha Pinkster enjoyed reading it and perhaps who knows but I will take a bit of everyone's advice from this post:

Isa-keep your options open
Jkeeton- opt for a person rather than more than one which I already am
MD-if he's mature with a solid character and reputation then it may be a good game
Soblessed-keep my eyes open as things can get messy
Freespirited-at least he has a JOB! lol
Wonkad-her story

Naw, I say keep it seperate... You have made great strides to get where you are. Sometimes the most innocent of intentions produce situations that leave you holding bags you never asked for. If by some chance find yourself interested in someone at work go for it. But dont make yourself AVAILABLE to everyone. The fact that you keep your distance is more alluring.. well for me anyway lol

Honestly, I am interested in only one brother and he's not even at my site but he's within the company. NO ONE ELSE! Blah! 

I guess it is a preference to not mix business with pleasure but it is not a rule...I would not actively pursue but if pursued I would def consider it...Keep yoru options open because you do not want to miss out on your potential soulmate.