Divorce and Gastric Bypass...

Just out of curiosity, what have you heard about this topic? I have been doing research on it today, and I just wanna know what you guys have heard or if anybody has been through it personally. Or knows anybody who has. I have a really strong marriage, and I strongly believe that this surgery will only make us stronger. But what have you heard/ experienced?

I’ll preface by saying I don’t believe in marriage in the first place, BUT – from what I’ve seen here over the years – your marriage and your WLS don’t have anything to do with each other……… HOWEVER – WLS can make already existing issues more prominent and can push an otherwise borderline issue over the edge.  

 

Most commonly, I’ve seen couples where the partners feels they will lose the other when they get ‘skinny’ – some where it’s an abusive/controlling relationship already and the weight loss frees the person to see the world in a new light and NOT the light the abuser would prefer.

 

If you’re strong now, you’ll be strong later – but WLS doesn’t ‘fix’ a dayum thing in a relationship – that’s my observation, at least.

GREAT answer, Trina! And that is EXACTLY what happened in my marriage...that officially ended TODAY!

DD

Thanks DD - Every now and again I act like i have some sense..... LOL! 

IF your marriage is already STRONG, having WLS will only make it stronger.

TRUE - cause the XES gets WAYYYYY better!!!!!!

ummm   or so I 'heard'..............  I'm a single, born again virgin.   (too bad I 'die' 2-3 times a week)

**running with plastic guard overhead - need to dodge the lightning strikes, yall understand.......**

 

LMAOOOOOOOO

Like any other major life change, wls on its own won't make a good marriage bad or a bad one good.  It may bring out stengths and weaknesses you were not aware of.  Its all in how you as a couple handle life's events. 

Well, Im not married but in a relationship and interestingly, my man loves me exactly the way I am.  He always did. And, he always pointed out how he just prefer full figured women.    He is not happy at all about the surgery but did tell me he understands I have to do it for myself.  We will see.  It will be very interesting to see if the dynamics of out relationship changes. 

I got divorced BEFORE my surgery, I would think if someone HAD to get weight loss surgery in order to KEEP their marriage--  then the marriage was not solid in the first place.

Hey There....

There are many on this board that divorce after WLS....and there are some like myself that don't seem to faced with that problem.

Funny thing is I had people on BAF tell me that it was pretty inevitable which not being able to predict the future I still argued.  I think for some on both ends WLS can bring out issues that may have already existed.

I am far from one to judge but will say I think every situation is different.  My husband is enjoying the new me as I am. We have been together for eleven years and  I always say it's like he has a new wife without the alimony....

Thinking about it is OK but love one another and just have fun honor what you want and how you feel and continue to communicate...wishing you all the best...