D-I-V-O-R-C-E-D!!!

Well, it was well worth the wait! As of 10:15 this morning, I am officially DIVORCED! Yes, I was a nervous wreck...but when my attorney handed me that judgment and said "Well, my dear...you are now DIVORCED!"...I laughed all on the inside!

My marriage was a journey...this surgery was a journey...and I have no regrets for either.  But the combination of the two caused problems with him wanting to control a sistah - and, being my mother's cihld...I put my foot down and yelled...HELL NO!

So, I am celebrating MY freedom from the shackles of that controlling situation.  I thank God for keeping me in His Arms...and I thank God for the man that He brought me BACK to...he is the love of my life and I am looking forward to us spending the rest of our lives together...HAPPY with one another.

Thanks to those of you who kept me in prayers in this situation. It was not a difficult decision - and I know that the timing had to be just right!

DD

It is interesting that you post this because I specifically came on the site to ask about bypass and divorce. Was your divorce a result of gastric bypass? I am just wondering. That is my research topic of the day. Thanks!

Hi,

No, not a direct cause.  However, my self-esteem, which was (I thought) not that low...obviously was.  When I began losing weight and began gaining a love for who I was and WHOSE I was, all the abusive conversations, words, etc. began to take a toll and I decided that I pretty much had enough - and left almost 2 years ago.

The surgery can be an issue in a marriage that is not a strong one from the beginning - it can make or break a marriage, based on trust and based on love...Marriage is a JOB...that TWO PEOPLE SHARE 24-7, and if one of the spouses decides to takes off for a while, then the marriage is bound to fail.

 

Thanks so much for your answer!!

Congrat to you Donna

So when are you going to post about your new found love and then wedding pics??

I am jus sayin...

Note to boomsheeka0
I would BET most people who divorced after  WLS were having problems BEFORE WLS and losing weight was just an EXCUSE to get out of an already rocky situation.

Rhonda...**psst...sooner than you think...LOL! He'll be here Friday, that is, if the snow doesn't cancel his flight!**

So you ARE still dating HIM.......................

Ohhhhhhhhhhh I thought maybe you met someone else recently at church and decided he was the man of your dreams and decided to get married and..........I know I am on my way >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Rhonda!!! Girl...I haven't dated anyone else since June last year!!! Shame on you!!! Just SHAME ON YOU! LOL!

DD

you are being messy rhonda shame on you!

Lavender you know you'll have been thinking the same, since seeing that post over there...