Dating after weight loss

PREACH!!!! my sista I agree wit' you 1000%!!! I see things totally different now myself and after going through this process I too see that some people just arent attracted to large people I aint mad at 'em no more for the way they feel either!!! I used to be bitter sayin"damn they aint even giving me a chance" but hey I didnt deserve a chance if they weren't attracted to me! I can dig it sista and you are just saying what so many think but aint man/woman enough to say!!!

Hang in there Joe.

You will find the right one !!

Everyone is pretty and handsome after wls.


 

Thanks  for the vote of confidence Phyll!

Hey, Joseph..

Don't sweat the b/s...as I said, its all a matter of preference...some chicks just don't dig big dudes...just as some of us don't really like bbw's. It has nothing to do with you, per se.  The fact of the matter is rationally, some of us know about the matter of choice and deal with it.  The emotional part, however, is an entirely different story.  While we may FEEL / KNOW we are the same person, externally, frankly, we really aren't.  Especially if, like me, you've been heavy all your life. 

Joe, all I can say to you is just enjoy your change in life and don't worry about the sudden attention.  You can do one of two things...thank them and keep it moving, or accept the attention and, perhaps, indulge. 

Peace.

We each know what attracts us.  I don't fault the guy who likes me as a four or the guy who liked me as a 20.  Few people have an initial attraction to women at the opposit ends of the spectrum.  

The men I ignore are those who've known me awhile but let my size dictate if they like me or not.  That's not just initial attraction.  I'm the same person big or small and these men know this. 

All, I have to say is "Wrap It Up" and enjoy the Gushie! Only you can prevent forest fires!

But for real, Only you know what you want and like. If you have it in your mind that you dont want to deal with a woman that thinks a certain way... why try to fit the square peg into the round hole (Get yall minds out the gutter)

Godd Luck, Bro. Just always remember that there are more woman out there than there are available men to accomodate their needs (Throw out the incarcerated and gay dudes).

-The Black Dr. Oz

 I'm not even gonna sit up here and lie and say that at 299 lbs, I had foine brothers falling all over me. I had a steady relationship, and that fell apart before I had surgery, and then I was single...

Well, now, all Ziggy wants to do is mingle. Men do pay more attention to me now, and you know what... I LIKE IT. I LIKE IT. I LIKE IT. 

I am not committed to anyone right now, and I am enjoying this phase in my life. When that right man comes along, I'll know it, and I won't be single anymore. Until then, I'm enjoying the dance!

I'm also not gonna say that I ignore those who ignored me before. Nope, I've taken each and every one of them up on their offer for dinner, ordered a bunch of **** I couldn't eat, decided that I don't eat leftovers, left that **** on the restaurant table, and left their lips dry with no good night peck. Screw em! Hey, that's what they were trying to do to me. It's probably not the most mature approach, but I'm not perfect. Not by a long shot. 

Its gonna be an interesting ride for sure...my main concern is that *I* can keep my head on straight as more attention comes my way. I have had some men rolling up all interested who have known me all along, but I aint mad. To me I  just look like I am trying to take better care of myself. Who wouldn't be attracted to that? IMO  most people admire and respect people who are bold enough to make major improvements. This is my take on this right now, but we will see....I aint skinty yet! lol

The first step is acceptance and once you accept that it is what it is the bitterness will go away. I was bitter too! I was heated because it was like I didn't deserve the attention because of a few ...okay hundred extra pounds lol. Embrace it...because then envy and jealousy from others will enter so I would say brush away the bitterness and prepare for the envious to arrive. Peace! 

I can't say that everybody has been through this during the process of the weightloss journey. I went through a lot of that before and it did bother me at first but I eventually learned how to take it all in stride, and like u said CONSISTENCY helps out a lot lol! Don't let the attention overwhelm you and just be careful when it come to matters of the heart, and just allow God to lead you.