Update - My Ex-friend of 20 years

Revised:


She called me and it got worse!!!.....I am discarding the dead weight!!!

Thanks everybody for your feedback. This matter has been resolved. I feel much better and feel as if a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Have a good weekend. I plan to go celebrate!!!

LOL,  you sent this heffa money and she sent you this,  wow talk about a thank you.

Her ass is beyond jealous.

LOL,  I thought this was a woman,  what the hell is that hole ?  

SP....I am so ******g p***ed but I did not want to jump the gun and let my initial feelings get way from me. As my grandma would say...I am gonna have to give her the long handled spoon treatment...and if that's not enough...take the next step.  She can't say a good word yet she can come back with some bullshioot like this here. People do change and I am seeing it in front of my eyes....its unreal...because I NEVER in a million years would have imagined this change. Seriously....I would not do the same thing. Many people I have known...have lost weight or got other good news. Heyl...I knew one person that won significant cash in the lottery BUT I was happy for them. Why can't people be happy for a person. You don't have to answer this...I am just venting....lot of shioot hitting me at once.

ETA: I only mention the money to show that "I" was trying to do something to LIFT her spirits. She has never asked for money and I have never sent "cash" in the whole 20 years we have been friends. I just wanted her to be able to treat herself in hard times. I am now seeing that she might only be able to offer ME support in HARD times...cause its not threatening in any way.

Heyl...now that you mention it...it looks like it might be a woman...that makes it even worse...she was so in a hurry to send this shioot to me....did not even take the time to look at what she was sending. SMDH

I can't see the pic - but whatever it is - she ain't cool for that one!

I told you before that it's hard for a mofo to be happy and glad when they are in a rough spot.  When I was in that place mentally, I retreated - just didn't really talk to anyone.  I could have chosen to be mean and snipey for no good reason, but people don't deserve that.  While I could empathize with her before - now Imma just tell you to leave her be.  She ain't where you are, so you must leave her where she's at so that you can continue YOUR journey without carrying dead weight. 


OMG - I just saw the pic - and I am ready to cuss her ass out myself!!!!

Ok, I can't see it....but personally, I would call her to the carpet on it.  If you don't you're going to have a strained relationship over this anyway, but she will have the satisfaction knowing she got you.    However, as you said it's a 20 year friendship, so call her out, tell her how you feel & then the ball's in her court after that.  Then whatever the outcome afterwards, you at least got it off your chest & if she doesn't make amends, then you know she wasn't a true friend!

Thanks Gigi!

I agree that I need to call her on the carpet about it. I sent her a message. I might have called on the phone for real...but I needed to get those feeling out AND did no want to wait until after work YET I dont want to talk about it on a break or anything....probably need more time. I need her to digest what I said anyway. I am just going to fade away.  She can draw her own conclusions if she can't come correct.  

I just sent her this message...and I was sending it I noticed that she had also sent the message to another friend of hers (I know her but we are just associates)  as well as me;however, this person has never had any weight issues...SO NOW I AM TRIPLE Pissed!!! She's history. The message may be mild...but she will get the point when I have no further contact with her.


Hey E*****,

You know...under normal cir****tances I would have taken this message as a joke but the last few times we have talked have felt different to me.  You know that I have tried to be supportive and help you get on track in regards to your weight...I know its hard.  When I told you that I had lost some more weight you had no positive words for me. Well...I let that go because I know that its hard to hear someone succeeding in an area that you might be struggling in. That's why I have not even brought weight up in our last conversations.

I want to believe that you are just joking in this message. I know that we do joke around a lot BUT it still hurt my feelings. Right now...I need support. I am trying to get my health in check. Its not coming from any other direction other than my support groups YET its not the same as the support you can get from a long term friend.

I thought I would reply to this message because right now I am not really up to talking on the phone about it.

It really pissed me OFF to be honest. And I don't know why the hell...you would send it to C**** too. She has not lost any weight. Was it to embarrass me?

Good for you!! Yes it was mild, but imo you did the right thing by calling her on it.

I'll take bets on her reply to you - I'll put my money on the passive agressive 'you're reading too much into it, why are you tripping?'

Lemme know her response - I could use the $ in my 'bank'.......