I am hoping that she is not doing a switcharoo on me!
I think it's good that you're giving her some time. Maybe she'll come around, but then again she might not. The important thing is that you continue to take care of yourself. There were some women who separated themselves from me after I lost weight. All of them were overweight. I did nothing nasty to them and didn't flaunt my weight loss. They just stopped talking to me. It hurt, but you know what? Life goes on. I continue to meet new people to fill that void and I'm OK. You'll be fine too, no matter what happens.
Thanks So Bless...Yes...we have gone through some things together so I am going to just wait it out. I don't want to think that she can't be supportive EVER because of where I am at now. My gut tells me that she is now where I was at...wallowing in self pity. So I am going to let her alone for now. Support her the best way I can BUT see if she reacts differently regardless of me staying low key about my weight loss. I guess time will be the best test.
Suck it up. You need to realize that the way you have always been is how folk are used to you. In her life and mind - you were the fatter than her friend. Now you're changing positions without her permission.
My mom STILL doesn't like to hear about my weight or size.....but when I gain and get upset about it - then she perks up. Even after my plastics, she's not really congradulatory.
Good idea on the space - let her come back around to you. And know that your weight and successes along your journey are not topics you'll get a lot of positive response from her on. So stop talking about it. It's like the happily married mofo calling the lonely single ***** to talk about what a wonderful date night and ****** she had...... that single friend don't wanna hear that shiot! LOL
Or better yet - the broke friend who's floating a check to buy bread and lunch meat to eat till next check talking to the friend that is tryna decide between steak and shrimp or king crab for dinner.... SHUT THE ***** UP!!!!!
lmaooooooooo
My mom STILL doesn't like to hear about my weight or size.....but when I gain and get upset about it - then she perks up. Even after my plastics, she's not really congradulatory.
Good idea on the space - let her come back around to you. And know that your weight and successes along your journey are not topics you'll get a lot of positive response from her on. So stop talking about it. It's like the happily married mofo calling the lonely single ***** to talk about what a wonderful date night and ****** she had...... that single friend don't wanna hear that shiot! LOL
Or better yet - the broke friend who's floating a check to buy bread and lunch meat to eat till next check talking to the friend that is tryna decide between steak and shrimp or king crab for dinner.... SHUT THE ***** UP!!!!!
lmaooooooooo
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on 1/13/10 11:34 pm, edited 1/13/10 11:34 pm - Sweet Dreams lives in , PA
on 1/13/10 11:34 pm, edited 1/13/10 11:34 pm - Sweet Dreams lives in , PA
MM...you sure can make someone smile...even when they don't feel like it. LOL. Thanks for that.....as usual...you are right on point. I was not trying to rub it in her face or anything. I was just excited and was sharing as we usually do BUT I can see how me talking about where I am at...only makes her feel worse about where shes at now. I am not going to make it a topic of discussion any more. I am just going to be supportive of her the best I can; HOWEVER, if she becomes negative towards me without any provocation or acts differently...then I am going to know where she stands. I know that it would probably have nothing to do with how she feels about me as a person or friend but I will get a better feel for her maturity level now that things have taken a turn and our dynamics have changed. One thing for sure...I can't take too much negativity...so we shall see. Thanks so much for the feedback.