My Losing Mind
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on 12/25/09 11:28 pm, edited 12/26/09 12:28 am - Sweet Dreams lives in , PA
on 12/25/09 11:28 pm, edited 12/26/09 12:28 am - Sweet Dreams lives in , PA
OK....so yesterday I told you about my Relapsing Mind. Well in order for me to lose weight...its not just a matter of me cutting calories and exercising. Something has to happen in my mind before I will even have a chance of consistent success in either area or get to the point of even trying. I have lost weight many times before AND each time....it really all came down to me changing my mindset AND how I related to food.
First off.....I know dayum good and well that a person should not have FOOD as a friend. Regardless of how many advantages there are to do so:
It won't desert you.
It won't criticize you.
It won't gossip about you behind your back.
It won't be looking at your man's privates part in wonderment! LOL!
Plus you save money on birthday and Christmas gifts.
Seriously, when I have a losing mind...I understand the importance of human connections, interactions rather than isolation.
I know I was a food addict because...it seriously hampered my social life. There was a point in time when I only interacted with my best friend and a few family members. I was not close to my Sorors because I isolated. I did not try to develop new relationships. While I was not content...I was complacent to do things by myself. My husband and I had grown apart so we were basically living separate lives under the same roof. Ever felt alone even when you are in a room full of people. That was me.
When I have my losing mind..."a healthy frame of reference"...I am not only more sociable but I seek out opportunities to engage with others. I value human associations and developing friendships.
FOOD does not need to be my friend any longer. Furthermore, I am more conscious about getting my feelings out. Whether discussing them with a friend or journaling consistently. I get them out rather than try to drown them with food.
When I was losing before, I was always to the point where I was journaling on a daily basis. Not only does it help purge and address feelings, it also helps one plan and see behavioral patterns ....increases one's awareness. This is so important.
NOW....when I am in a losing frame of mind....I also view food differently in terms of its value to sustaining human life. I use Metaphors to make sense of things all the time.
If we think all the way back to the Garden of Eden. It says that Eve and subsequently Adam were tempted to eat the "Fruit" from the Tree of Knowledge. Now...Did ya'll see anything in the bible about the serpent rolling a huge azz buffet in there! LOL! From the very beginning...It has always been about eating healthy......
Food is to be used only for the NOURISHMENT of our bodies and nothing more. When I am in a losing mindset. I keep this fresh and up front. Its not to be used to cope with feelings. Its not to be used for pleasure. Its not to be used for company. Its ONLY purpose is to keep our organs functioning properly. When I think about this...it impact how much I eat and how I eat. I slow down, chew...chew... chew to aid digestion and the metabolism of the nutrients.
I think half the battles that we face as human being always comes down to how WE Feel!!! Just think about it. This is what separates us from other species....our emotions. Imagine what it would be like if other species had higher level feelings and used the same self destructive ways we use to cope with them. Y'all would suddenly see some weird shiott out here in this world:
A black guppy fish swimming around in a tank full of Jack Daniels. LOL! Thinking about how his ass is being discriminated against because he ha**** the glass ceiling literally!
You might drive up on an obese deer waddling across the road trying to commit suicide because she can't understand why her BUCK left her big azz to **** another doe!
Seriously though and back to using food for Nourishment only. The best example I can give myself it to think about a cow. A cow will eat grass day in and day out to survive. They are not getting all excited and tapping their feet at the anticipation of the next meal of grass. They sure as hell don't look as if they are enjoying it. Hell even the Neanderthals just ate all their shioot straight up without given a second thougth about Old Bay Seasoning, Butter and Brown Sugar! LOL! FOOD IS FOR NOURISHMENT ONLY MY BEAUTIFUL BLACK PEOPLE! Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Sleep Apnea... Our use of Food is detrimental not nourishing.
If we need pleasure....go on a vacation, have sex, go shopping etc etc.. but eat modestly. When I am in a losing healthy mindset....I do these things AND I drop pounds.
One last trick of my losing mind that helps me lose weight is to think about the FOOD of TODAY as a CAPITALIST CONSPIRACY!!! LOL! Yeah...Ya'll know that those HO HOs, Ding Dongs, McDonalds, KFC is all ABOUT the almighty dollar!!! Remember back in the days when none of these places existed. It was all about wholesome nourishing foods. People cooked their own food and were not fast food junkies!
When ever I go to the store and am in a losing mindset, when I look at those cupcakes...all I think about is how the MAN is laughing his RICH ass off at MY FAT ASS!!! Something about this vision turns me off.....Its easier for me to pass on the temptation at this point.
Anywho...Ya'll...either you think I am crazy or you know exactly what I am talking about. Please share if you have something special that helps get you into a "losing" mindset!
First off.....I know dayum good and well that a person should not have FOOD as a friend. Regardless of how many advantages there are to do so:
It won't desert you.
It won't criticize you.
It won't gossip about you behind your back.
It won't be looking at your man's privates part in wonderment! LOL!
Plus you save money on birthday and Christmas gifts.
Seriously, when I have a losing mind...I understand the importance of human connections, interactions rather than isolation.
I know I was a food addict because...it seriously hampered my social life. There was a point in time when I only interacted with my best friend and a few family members. I was not close to my Sorors because I isolated. I did not try to develop new relationships. While I was not content...I was complacent to do things by myself. My husband and I had grown apart so we were basically living separate lives under the same roof. Ever felt alone even when you are in a room full of people. That was me.
When I have my losing mind..."a healthy frame of reference"...I am not only more sociable but I seek out opportunities to engage with others. I value human associations and developing friendships.
FOOD does not need to be my friend any longer. Furthermore, I am more conscious about getting my feelings out. Whether discussing them with a friend or journaling consistently. I get them out rather than try to drown them with food.
When I was losing before, I was always to the point where I was journaling on a daily basis. Not only does it help purge and address feelings, it also helps one plan and see behavioral patterns ....increases one's awareness. This is so important.
NOW....when I am in a losing frame of mind....I also view food differently in terms of its value to sustaining human life. I use Metaphors to make sense of things all the time.
If we think all the way back to the Garden of Eden. It says that Eve and subsequently Adam were tempted to eat the "Fruit" from the Tree of Knowledge. Now...Did ya'll see anything in the bible about the serpent rolling a huge azz buffet in there! LOL! From the very beginning...It has always been about eating healthy......
Food is to be used only for the NOURISHMENT of our bodies and nothing more. When I am in a losing mindset. I keep this fresh and up front. Its not to be used to cope with feelings. Its not to be used for pleasure. Its not to be used for company. Its ONLY purpose is to keep our organs functioning properly. When I think about this...it impact how much I eat and how I eat. I slow down, chew...chew... chew to aid digestion and the metabolism of the nutrients.
I think half the battles that we face as human being always comes down to how WE Feel!!! Just think about it. This is what separates us from other species....our emotions. Imagine what it would be like if other species had higher level feelings and used the same self destructive ways we use to cope with them. Y'all would suddenly see some weird shiott out here in this world:
A black guppy fish swimming around in a tank full of Jack Daniels. LOL! Thinking about how his ass is being discriminated against because he ha**** the glass ceiling literally!
You might drive up on an obese deer waddling across the road trying to commit suicide because she can't understand why her BUCK left her big azz to **** another doe!
Seriously though and back to using food for Nourishment only. The best example I can give myself it to think about a cow. A cow will eat grass day in and day out to survive. They are not getting all excited and tapping their feet at the anticipation of the next meal of grass. They sure as hell don't look as if they are enjoying it. Hell even the Neanderthals just ate all their shioot straight up without given a second thougth about Old Bay Seasoning, Butter and Brown Sugar! LOL! FOOD IS FOR NOURISHMENT ONLY MY BEAUTIFUL BLACK PEOPLE! Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Sleep Apnea... Our use of Food is detrimental not nourishing.
If we need pleasure....go on a vacation, have sex, go shopping etc etc.. but eat modestly. When I am in a losing healthy mindset....I do these things AND I drop pounds.
One last trick of my losing mind that helps me lose weight is to think about the FOOD of TODAY as a CAPITALIST CONSPIRACY!!! LOL! Yeah...Ya'll know that those HO HOs, Ding Dongs, McDonalds, KFC is all ABOUT the almighty dollar!!! Remember back in the days when none of these places existed. It was all about wholesome nourishing foods. People cooked their own food and were not fast food junkies!
When ever I go to the store and am in a losing mindset, when I look at those cupcakes...all I think about is how the MAN is laughing his RICH ass off at MY FAT ASS!!! Something about this vision turns me off.....Its easier for me to pass on the temptation at this point.
Anywho...Ya'll...either you think I am crazy or you know exactly what I am talking about. Please share if you have something special that helps get you into a "losing" mindset!
I'm inclined to agree with the conspiracy theory.
Eliminate us Black folks and have us pay for the priviledge of our own mass extermination. This train of though may keep me from buying that next box of sf Tasty Kake.
Eliminate us Black folks and have us pay for the priviledge of our own mass extermination. This train of though may keep me from buying that next box of sf Tasty Kake
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MSW Roux-En-Y Gastric Bypass: Eat sensibly & enjoy moderation
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There was time that I was having a menage trois with food. I've always been big, but I had to make some quick decisions when I was faced with the choice of losing my job with the local job market looking very bleak or taking a transfer to another state in order to keep my job. I took the transfer & that was the most miserable 3 1/2 years of my life. Me & food had a pretty friendly relationship before the move I had it in control, I was even losing weight again, but our relationship became very illicit within a matter of weeks, as I sunk into depression that fast. Too many changes at once, a couple of betrayals in co-workers who I considered good friends, a seemingly unfriendly town. So I turned to what was familiar after I went home from work. It got out of conrol quick, my most common binging food became 2 large pizzas with everything & 15-20 piece buffalo wings, up to 3 x a week. I gained 100+ pounds in less than six months. Heck, I don't even know what my heighest weight was as the scale I had only went to 350. I finally relocated to another state & the weight started slowly coming off, but I yoyod constantly. When I decided to have this surgery, I cried in front of my pcp when I set up my referral appointment as I had swore to myself that I would never revisit my heighest weight again,,,,but that day when his nurse took my weight, I weighed in at 358.
So I understand completely what you're saying. Unfortunately, I just don't have any advice to offer.
So I understand completely what you're saying. Unfortunately, I just don't have any advice to offer.
HW:358/CW:242:GW:160
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