Outrageous! Crazy! Bananas! ...but then again.

Ayy yo,

Jingle-Jangle-Jingle and all dat!  I promised myself that I wasn't going to do this but I just gotta ask:

Do sistas really go about it like this when it comes to dating and such?

There I was last nigh****ching the move, "He's Really Not That Into You" on HBO (I know my blacque-azz is a little behind the times on this one but hey I'm still in grad school, ya dig, so I don't get to watch that much television thank you very much) <insert one of Dedee's eye rolls.> 

Anyway...  I seemed to notice a theme throughout the movie - "Dems be's whyte folks' issues."   I was left wondering will those issues necessarily carry over to the hood side of thangs.  Whatchu think?

Sure the flick had two sistas in it dropping knowledge on the subject but other than that we were basically MIA.  So I ask you BAF:  How can you tell if he (or she) is not really all that into you?  Holla atcha boy...

  man - what's so funny is I had a homie that figured out on Facebook that a group of chicks he thought HE was running thru were actually passing HIM around.....


To answer ya question - depends on the sista.  I know PLENTY hoes that do the 'will he call?'  and all that jazz.  Me, I got DNA in my phone so many times you'd think I worked in a CSI lab. Had a dude hit me last week wanting to know why I seemed 'distant' - um - dude, when you call - I answer, when you text  - I responded.  Then he asked why I hadn't called him.........

 well.....#1 - I don't chase men.  You wanna holla - you better be a caller!
#2 - IF you wanna get chose, you need to bring ya game.  Yo convo was lame the times we DID speak.

#3 - (didn't say this to him) yo apartment is nassy and raggedy and if I hadn't been drunk and horny - you'd STILL be tryna get at me.

as for dudes not that into ME, well - don't know em cause I don't pay attention either!  LOL Every dude that GETS my attention has done the 'Smith, Soloman and Blarney...... THEY EARNED IT'.  That's just how I roll, how I ride.

 

 

 Word.  I still say sistas are the best at pulling the ole Okey-Doke on a fool.  Men do it too but a lot of times if the brotha is all bashful and shy then he won't know he's been "done-in" until he is money is low and his self-esteem matches that.

I know what you mean, but I have never been able to be the 'get over on you' type chick.  Too much work, too many lies to tell - I got ADD... can't concen.....wha wuz I sayin?

  LOL!!

 

As always, actions speak louder than words. If you are sitting around wondering if he/she is into you... if you have to ask the question, then chances are he/she isn't. Whether you are the chaser or the chasee, it's never hard to tell what someone's intentions are. What women do often times, especially sistahs, is let others talk us out of going with our first instincts. Our instincts let us know early on what a person is about. We listen to our girlfriends for example who might be telling us to give the brother a chance, we are being too picky, etc, etc. What we are hearing is our inner voice whispering to us to keep it moving, run, don't walk to the nearest exit. We don't listen. Then we are sitting there wondering what the heck happened.

Way too funny!!!!  

I have also follow by those rules you said Mack Mama and I also let them know that I am a delete happy fool.  I will delete you out of my contact list if I have not heard from you in 2 wks  .  I let them know that I don't collect contacts so if you don't call while your name is listed in my register then 10X's out of 10 when you do call I won't know who you are.

Girl - if I don't label it 'DNA' - I don't know it's a fool I don't want to be bothered with!

Had one time I didn't DNA - had to tell the fool to LOSE my number!!!  he asked 'was I that bad?'

I said...... WORSE!!!!

 

 

I dint have the attention span to mark them with a special code so to my mind it's just easier to DELETE and hopefully they would get the hint if they called back and I don't know who they are. 

And he must have known he was that bad for him to ask. DAH

I used to just delete - but then if I picked up the call, the convo would turn to 'can I please see u again and make it up to you?' or some other ish like that.  I'm cold, but repeatedly hanging up in someone's face just ain't me - so I just hit ignore when DNA comes up.....

yea that fool knew that ish!!!  kept texting, emailing AND calling for a 'second chance'..... this ain't baseball - you do NOT get 3 strikes!!!!!

It's SUDDEN DEATH mofo!  and I done put a 'Do Not Rescusitate' Order on your chart!!!!!

 

Seeeeee......this is why I love Mack Mama!!! ( Trina, I love you gurl!!!)  It CAN NOT be said any better, but I will put my spin on it. 

I do not chase men!  Period. If you want me, find me, step to me, stake your claim, make your point, come up but....

you betta bring your A game cuz if you are a liar, playing some juvenile, sophomoric game, married, gay, or a spiritual, emotional, physical, financial, social mess, I will loose interest with a quickness and....
    
if you are just chasing me just to chase me?  Join a gym.  Run a marathon.  Take the stairs...whateva....

BUT, unfortunately I do know women of all ethnic backgrounds that fall prey to the games some men play.  It's sad but there are a lot of really good, strong, intelligent, sexy, LONELY women out here and too often those beautiful sisters get caught up in the drama and stay with a bad man too long or are willing to put up with nonsense too long.  

Moral of the story: If he's acting like he's not that into you, news flash, he's not that into you.  See the 'NEXT' sign on his forehead and move on!