The Dark Side of WLS: Second Mistake I Made...

Thinking that my success would be like others.  I would look at all the before and after pics of others;  I would actually go to the pages and look at others body measurements and compare them to mine and think that is what will happen to my body.  I remember seeing a young lady that was the same weight and height as me and she had lost 100 pounds in the first 4 months of her journey.  I thought I would do the same...NOT!!!!!!!!!

My journey is MY journey.....My mistake was comparing myself to others.  You cannot do that!!!!  For me, it just made me depressed when I didn't produce like others.  So don't set yourself up for failure.  This is YOUR journey and YOUR journey alone.  There is no one else like you.  Leave the comparison alone if you know like me.

YEA I DID THAT TOOO!!

So did I, and I still do sometimes.... but you are right!!  Thanks for sharing

Yes, you are right Treena,

I know I look because it just amazes me to see the changes in people. I don't focus on their measurements because as you say.....everyone is different.  Another thing to keep in mind when looking at Before and After Pic is that those folks WORKED their tool! They did the right things OR the weight would not have come off so successfully. So in addition to looking at the pics....go in and read their profiles...see what they did right and what they did wrong.  This site and those who profile on it are just part of the equation for a successful weight loss experience.  It all starts with the person and how committed they can be to the process.

Excellent post.....glad to see you back!

You should re-post this all over the various boards here. About once a week I see a "Why me? Why am I a slow loser?" posts and I didn't realize how annoying they can be when I was a newbie until now where I've really come to own how individual this journey is. I get a lot of BL messages asking me about the "secret" to my success but honestly if someone followed my routine exactly, there's no telling what the outcome would be for them. The only issue I have now is trying to figure out what size I am. People all the time tell me that I am "skinny" and looking thin or too thin.. but my mind hasn't caught up with the new bod yet. My sister and I can wear the same size 6 pants, but we are built very differently- I'm curvy and she is straight. I'm learning to accept all of the differences with pride!

Please, please re-post this to the larger OH audience!

DAYUM!!!!!   OFF TO THE  I GO!!! You look great! Thanks for posting! 

I had to reply to this statement you made about you and your sister wearing the same size but looking different.  My good friend and I can both wear 10's and 12's we are in the same clothing.  But she looks way thinner than I do.  I had to get over that.  She is damn near 7 inches taller than me and her arms are smaller.  So we dont look the same even though we can wear each other's clothes.  Its all about learning to love yourself, and that is something I struggle with daily.

If I never agree with another post on this board.....you hit a HOMERUN on this one!!!!!!  You need to post this on the darn mainboard and everywhere else!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is so true...I am guilty of this as well...still trying to work through my own personal issues, Thanks for putting it out there 

If ever a good word made me wanna holla, it would be this one.  You better preach Treena.  I am still guilty of this almost 2 years out and have convinced myself I'm a failure though statistically I'm not.   It's so bad that I can't appreciate my progress  and people don't understand my frustration and disappointment.  Thanks again for your honesty.