Xpost - would you if you could?

If you had a coworker who was making your life miserable and you had information that could get them fired would you use it?

I work in the medical field so, it depends on if his actions has caused harm to others.  But you will often find that people like that (ones who make others life miserable) already have someone with an eye(s) on them.  Some jobs will give a person enough room to hang themselves in order to get them on bigger actions and sealing their fate for good (termination). So you may not be the only one who wants or has dropped the dime on this person. People today are currently  living life on the edge, i would not knowingly want to make  any ones Life miserable. Work place violence is an common occurrence. Which brings me to my next question is your boss (supervisor) the type of person who would point the finger at you as being the person *****ported him/her? you might want to think about that also.

Good point about the boss. We have an anonymous ethics hotline here that any one of 600 people can call so I doubt they would assume it was me. Actually the guy who is making my life hell is a total waste of space. It is common knowledge that he sleeps on the job. He is such an exceptional suck ass that people overlook his flaws. I was actually told that people here feel sorry for him because of his weight and diabetes. The things he is doing though would be firable offenses for everyone else though.

I would only make it my business to report someone's actions if they impacted me or impacted the safety and welfare of others. In either case, I would need to be certain that I had indisputable proof of such violations because I would hate to get someone
investigated based on information that turned out to be inaccurate.

My motivation would be based on my need to protect myself and others.  If it falls outside those lines, I would consider it his or her supervisor's job to be watchful enough to catch those other issues. Heyl...if I reported everything that could possibly result in someone's termination....I would not have enough time to do my job. Besides in most cases (unless we're talking serious violations like theft of cash, sexual harassment and the like), the person would be given progressive supervision and not termination if they plead stress, health issues etc...  etc... as a  precipitating  factor. Termination is usually the last resort. Remember the employer needs to cover their azz too in the event of lawsuits for wrongful termination.

In regards to this person making your life miserable, Please examine if there is anything else you can do to change this trend.  Are you in a position, to express your concerns about how this person's behaviors impact you.  This would be my first consideration. Sometimes just putting a person on alert that there actions will not be tolerated might be enough to get him to wise up. If you have not said anything....this perhaps he is totally oblivious that its impacting you.

I was dealing with a co-worker that had this serious tendency to be passive aggressive.  I had to put it to her on front street that this behavior was perplexing to me. In my most professional way....basically told her that this was third grade behavior and I did not think it was appropriate in the workplace.  I was able to give concrete examples and told her that I was not sure if that was her intent but that this is the way it was coming off to me.  Because I approached it from the perspective of how I felt....it did not put her on the offensive but rather made her own what was hers. She assured me that it was not her intent.  Whether she was telling the truth or not...I don't know ( I would want to believe she was telling the truth) but the more important factor is that she knows that the behavior will not just be allowed to happen and not be addressed. People for the most part don't like to have their issues put out there as destructive. 

I sure hope you are able to get this all resolve.  There is nothing worse than going to work everyday dreading the moment  you must interact with someone or walk on eggshell because you don't trust yourself not to just GO OFF on the person.

I just said a prayer for you.

I have never purposefully hunted someone down to get them fired - what goes around comes around.  Surely you ain't perfect yourself everywhere in everyway. 

Instead, I would take up my option to talk to my manager.  I have had a somewhat similar situation at my current gig and I have the creditbility and leverage that if I say something - folk move.  But that crediibility and leverage are built on my record and performance - I don't push some **** I don't want pushed on me - ya dig?

As for abject lazy sonsof*****es - lemme just say that the FEW that existed when I started almost 3 years ago........ no longer with the company and errybody that works FOR me - scared as **** to see an email from me asking WHY some **** AIN'T get done that was supposed to......  nobody likes to see 'mama' mad....... LOL

However - as a manager, my RETURN to my employees is that while I hold them to the FIRE to tow the line - I'll shoot any mofo that doesn't hold up their end - and they have seen a couple folk's desk end up empty.  

It's not on YOU but your or his manager to be what they are SUPPOSED to be - you're pretty crafty - I'm sure you can find a 'non direct' way of pushing that agenda........

YES.  I am not going to let anyone threaten my position especially when they have already jepardized their own job.  The difficult part would be how to let it be known without facing repercussions myself for blowing the whistle.  People don't like snitches.  Even the management that benefits from the revelation may distrust you. 

I  HAVE  40 YRS OF EXPERIENCE  IN THE WORKFORCE .  I HAVE BEEN  FROM THE BOTTOM TO THE  TOP. I HAVE  EVEN HAD A PHYSICAL FIGHT  (I SAW ONE OF MY EMPLOYEE FLUSH A PATENT  FOOD  DOWN  THE  TOLIET)  I SAW  SOMEONE  NOT PRACTING  THE CHAIN OF COMMAND AND TOLD HOW THE COOK  WAS  FEEDING CHIDREN  AFTER SCHOOL WAS OUT. I SAW THE  GANG PEOPLE EAT BEFORE  THE  PATIENTS (THE NEW  COOK  WAS A GANG  MEMBER)  THEY  SHOULD OF FIRED ME BUT PRASIED ME  FOR  FIGHTING  SO I SENT MYSELF TO ANGER MANGEMENT AND SUSPENDED MYSELF  AS AN  EXAMPLE BECAUSE THAT WAS WRONG AND I HAD THE POWER  TO FIRE HER IMMEDIATLEY    WHEN THE PERSON  TOLD ON THE COOK THE  NEXT  WEEK WHEN  THEY FOUNT  AN EXCUSE NOT RELATED TO THAT  TO RELEASE THEM  BECAUSE THEY  WERE NO GOOD THEM SELVES  AFTER  GOING  AND CHECKING MY MOTIVES OUT I CONSULTEDMY PASTOR  AND RESIGNED  2WEEKS  LATER  THE TRUTH PREVAILED THE PEOPLE WITH POWERCAME AND ASKED  ME  BACK THEY  FOUND WHILE I WAS GONE THAT22CARS OF GANG PEOPLE WOULD TAKE OVER THEIR PLACE  AT NIGHT  LIKE  I SAID WHAT  I'M SAYING  IS CONSULT YOUR REAL MOTIVES  REMEMBER BUSINESS BEFORE PLEASURE  THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE  I LOVE  AS A NURSE  AND HATE  AS A PERSON I LEARNED  HOW TO DEAL AND LIVE

I witnessed an incident the other night that tripped me out.

A friend asked me to go to the Salvation Army with her. She told me that her God son's girlfriend works there and will give us her "employee" discount. This wasn't the hood S/A but rather one of the many that are now popping up in upscale communities. We were surrounded by Coaches, Gucci, Minks, and Louis Viton handbags..

Anyway, I found a nice coat and two or three other items that my friend put in her basket to purchase with the "employee" discount.

After my friend filled her basket with every expensive thing known to man, we proceed to the long line up front. When it was my friend turn to check out, sistah gurl "the employee" just start stuffin the shyt in bags never ringing ANYTHING UP. As she stuffed and stuffed she kept saying to my friend loud enough for all the white folks in line to hear..."this is my christmas gift to you". All I could think was oh hell my old brokedown ass is on my way to Big Bertha's house.

I was visibly shaken, the people in line were visibly shaken, and most importantly the co-worker of the birdbrain was very very veryyyyy shaken to the point that the girl asked her what was wrong...well duhhhhhhhh!

I told my friend that as long as she lives on this side of the EARTH that she had betta NEVA EVVVVA put me in the middle of some stupid shyt like that again . I am not a thief and never planned on becoming one. It was this experience that REMINDED me WHY I shop alone in the first place. I'm talkin folks in their 50's. I also plan to cut the "friend" loose.

I said all of that to say that had I been the very shaken co-worker...I would sing like a canary because birdbrain has possibly cost her her much needed job. Perhaps she did.

So my answer is if this co-worker could possibly jeopardize your employment then yes snitch on his behind so that in the future he will remember the carnal rule...and I quote

"When you do dirt (no matter what it is) do it alone.

Personally, I would confront. 

I would say "John, you might not be aware of it, but whenever you do X, Y or Z it creates problems for me because ______________.  "