IS THIS A WLS SUPPORT BOARD

I understand how you feel....glad you posted your feelings too.  I think we have probably all felt this same way at some point in time. it can feel real cliquish at times....but one thing is true....the longer you stay around...the more you are able to develop a rapport and get to know folks.....just like IRL.  The one thing I know for sure...you can't take it personally...because it most definitely is not about you....as to why you get no response...it really is about where everybody else is in their mind at that particular moment. I think the same can be said of other forums you will find out there. I believe that for the most part people try to be supportive....I know...I do; however, this past week has been rough for me....and I am basically working on my own stress level...by posting half of the crazy or silly stuff I post. Might be the same for someone else.  I think another good stategy is to send who you see as the most experienced folks on the board a message on the backline...if you dont get enough or any feedback.   I know that I personally do not like to see any message go without one reply.  Unless...its ones thats not really in need of one or I am totally oblivious to...I will jump in to offer something...anything to the OP.  I think it has actually gotten better. Please stick around. You have been a very positive voice.  If you want....we can start a thread for newbies again and post tips so that others that feel like you do now....can also get support and ask questions without feeling intimidated. While some get tired of answering the same questions over and over....it really is something that has to happen for the incoming folks....class of 2009, 2010, 2011 etc etc etc. Can't expect Freshman to come in and start taking Senior lessons! 


Another useful tip for anyone is to not just google but do a search on this site....more than likely...you will find a thread that has addressed the very issue that is in question.

Hope all is working out for you. I went back and checked out your thread. I also suggest you contact the doctor...sometimes...you dont want to rely on advice on here for something like that anyway. Blessings       

ETA: I was finishing up my message and exited to see the other messages. I am only trying to help....not flame or get flamed. 

I will repeat...that I think its a good thing that you started this post...sometimes a reminder is good ;however, like you mentioned I do hope it results in a overall positive outcome for you and not an internet battle.

MD,


thank you but let me say this im not taking it personal......I dont think anyone has beef with me....wouldnt care if they did ....but i dont think its just me its other post...uhardly see me post.....ive been around for a minute and too me its the same if not worst.


but i do thank u 4 ur reply MD

You're welcome....but I do see you post...cause...I am always admiring your hair! Lovely style!  

lol thank you.....and if you see me post i only post to people asking for prayers....but thank you I love that style as well

When I was newly post op and full of surgery relateed questions I tended to go to the lap band board.  I didn't start posting on BAF (mostly cuz I forgot it wass here) till I was almost a year out and even then I was more of a lurker.  I always figured most people saw BAF as I do-more of a social enviorment, with the nitty gritty surgery related issues being handled on the surgery boards.

Unfortunately Band pts are in the minority here and I don't have much knowledge to help out Bypass/Sleeve/ DS folks.  Usually though if you stick around a bit you will see most topics addressed here, there's also a lot of encouragement for staying on track and active.  I'm sorry the board isn't providing what you need at this time-but its like most things you will find on the net:  Take what you need and leave the rest.

Good luck to you on your journey.

Ofcourse its like anything on the net  however this if BAF and If I cant get it here trust Ill find it but I think its sad at how this board goes down...Im not a kiss as I have a Blk ass of my own I cant kiss ill be damn if I kiss somebody else....lmao no thats not me...im good I have one friend from here Im sure we will remain friends and I wish I could go to the MG in
ATL to see my girl SPP....thank you all for your reply and take care....i most likely wont be back to post n e thing...but my pics lol

I'm sorry you didn't get the support you needed.   It is finals at my university and i'm really busy and didn't see it,  not to mention I wouldn't have know how to respond cause unfortunately every dam thing I eat stays down and stays on my big ass. 

I am gonna start actually paying attention to the newbies cause I think a lot of what your saying is true, and i'm part of that group you speak of.  People get sick of my workout posts and don't respond, but i'm doing it more for those who find inspiration from it, and mostly for myself.

Keep posting.

actually i enjoy your workout post and cookies what did you eat6 post or things like thjat I really do so dont stop that...ive been around sibce 03 or 04 so im not a newbie but feel bad for the people lookinjg for answers and dont get them.....i would tell them just google it

 I'm sorry you feel this way. I had surgery about 14 months ago. I still feel like a newbie so I stay over on the RNY board where the main focus typically revolves around RNY and protein and recipes. I come here for the occasional thought provoking post and often come out of lurk mode to respond. There are some regulars here who post and some of the things that are posted and the responses are simply comedic and when my day has been rotten and I need a laugh, this is where I come. 

Let it be said though, that I've hit Mack Mama up on the BL to discuss a relationship issue that I thought she could relate to and she talked me thru something so that I didn't feel like I was the crazy person in my relationship. Ro Ro was supportive of my nerves regarding my up coming surgery, and she was smack dab in the middle of her own personal tragedy. So you see, the folks here, the regulars do offer support when you need it. 

Also, the BAF folks have a knowledge about WLS that only affects black folks. Believe it or not, black folk suffer from some health issues that other races are not affected by. So, I beg of you, don't alienate the folks on BAF because something could come up and you might need the BAF perspective to talk you through a medical issue. I hope that doesn't happen, but it could. 

Hang tight. This board is great, and there are other boards that offer support if you feel like BAF isn't giving you with WLS support that you need. Not everyone on this board has had RNY, so keep in mind that everyone that reads your posts may not be qualified to respond. Just my 2 cents. 

I totally agree with you on somethings. Again I am not a newbie Ive been around for a while. I use to lurk often but my experience on here hasnt made me feel a need to keep coming back...I have talked to a lot off ol skool folks Ro included and yes she is a down as chick im not saying everyone is bad Im simply saying I see a change...I cant ask regular folks in my everyday life because they havent had gastric bypass so I come here as well as im aware we on BAF havent had the same type of surgery.....anyways I thank you for you reply and it is great to hear that you have found good things on BAF take care