OT - Never Married, Over 40, Well-Adjusted

 FYI for the single folks. 

A new study looking at psychological measures shows that never-married people aged 40 and up can be just as resourceful, psychologically speaking, as their married counterparts.

 

Wait, there's more.

 

"If you look at never marrieds who are high on mastery -- they feel like they are in the driver's seat and in control of their lives -- and high on self-sufficiency -- they know how to take care of themselves -- they actually have better emotional well-being than married people," said study author Jamila Bookwala, an associate professor of psychology at Lafayette College in Easton, Pa. Her report is published in the Nov. 30 issue of the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/hsn/20091207/hl_hsn/nevermarriedover 40welladjusted

 

Thankyou Sue !!

Although I was married from 85 to 92.  

Really lived with my ex from 85 to 90.

I feel like a  never married person.


Marriage is just not for everybody !!


I think marriage is lovely , wonderful,  and I sooooo give my blessings to holy vows of marriage.  God love you and bless you with upmost happiness !!!

My son has been away from home now for six years.

It is just me myself and I.

I love my life. 

I date,  I love my family and  friends..........

I love my home !!   Life is good !!

It is just me myself and I.

I love my life. 

I date,  I love my family and  friends..........

I love my home !!   Life is good !!



 That's what I'm talking about!

So that explains why I'm so screwed up............

          well... when I heard that you were outside in the cold "watching birds", when you coulda peeped them from a inside window, Pimpin, I kinda knew all hope was lost.

  You're funny.

I think it's a good read.  Although the sample size was small, the study raised some good points.  People try to make women especially feel that if they're not married by a certain age that there's something wrong with them. 

i'm pro-happy-marriage, so no disrespect to the wives, but er uh,*cough* spinsters live longer.  lol!   

I'm happy in my singleness, but I would love to be "happily" married.  However I did take turning  25 & 40 horribly, in part thanks to my mother.  She had ingrained into her girls that she was married by 21 & you were considered "a spinster" if you weren't married by 24.  But, nevertheless as one of TP play titles state " I can do bad all by myself"!!    I've seen to many people settle & don't plan to be in that number.  If single is what I've got to be then so be it.

Thanks for sharing Sue!

i do agree that marriage is not for everyone. I have been there and do not have any regrets; however, I am just getting to the point where I am starting to realize that there is nothing wrong with me for not being married nor having the inclination to do it again. It does not mean that single people are failures. It can mean that single people "chose" to remain single until that person comes along that they feel compliments them or they have got to a point of comfort and acceptance in their singleness.  There are many organizations out there that cater to single people. Just need companionship.....many organizations can provide that on some level. Of course, the deep committment and intimate companionship between man and woman is something one needs to learn to live without. The compromise might be peace of mind and ability to make one's own decisions without giving them a second thought     Awwww...the  sweet smell of freedom.

Its great though when a person is blessed to have found "THE ONE". I wish all these couples nothing but the best. 

And...I can feel for those that are single yet want to have children with an intact nuclear family....keep in mind that many a lovely home and family have been made with non biological children.

I enjoyed the article.  You should post this on the WLS Singles Board.
I like being single, but I would love to be married ... to the right one.