Is life after surgery hard??

boomsheeka01
on 12/3/09 1:56 am - Killeen, TX
I always hear great things about the fast weight loss after surgery, but I am wondering if all in all life gets harder after surgery? What is your expierence? Thanks!
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Faith *
on 12/3/09 2:07 am
I will admit it feels like I have another job to try and keep up with this journey (food, water, exercise).  Some days I am obsessed with it and others I say to hell with it.  Weight loss with the band tends to be slower than other surgeries.  However, I am still happy with my progress.  I believe my life has been enhanced by having the surgery because I much more outgoing. I still struggle with self esteem issues (ducking from a couple of BAF friends who may interject here).   I am not going to say that my life is hard or easy...I just try to balance it. 

People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown

secretselfesteem
on 12/3/09 2:08 am - CO
I will tell you this. I live on my own. I have very few friends in the area and I just started a new career with my company, that I dont want to jepardize by not being there.

Surgery date 11/24
back to work date 12/03
Surgery RNY
Status: EXTREMELY HARD!

My mom was here to help me through surgery from 11/23-12/1
Status: AWESOME!

12/1-12/3
dirty dishes, dirty laundry, unopened mail, cant drive too far yet.
Status: FRUSTRATING

All and all I know that eventually once I get past 100 calories intake a day I will have more energy.  So far... I just have to be patient and do what must be done, and how much of it I can do.

I will tell you... keep real friends super close, and use them as much as they have time available.
        
Glamazon
on 12/3/09 2:15 am - Mesa, AZ

Sweetie, the best way that I can explain this is to say, you will simply be a smaller version of the person you are now. For example, if you have emotional issues or a bad marriage or a nasty personality now, you will have them then as well.   Weight loss surgery does not fix all of life's problems (and I know you know that logically) but emotionally, we often feel that things are going to be SOOOO much easier and yes, many things are.  It's easier to move, breath, work, have sex, have babies, buy clothes, wear shoes, run, dance get into and out of your car and countless other things.  All of those things are worth looking forward to, but like anything else you are who you are and life is life. 

Often weight loss surgery is a catalyst that propels people forward.  Maybe they were once too shy to talk to people and now, with their new found confidence, have gotten past that.  Maybe it inspires you to take on a new job or project or to travel or even to leave a bad relationship or situation.  But what it won't do, is make all of your issues go away.  You still need to work on the internal you as the external you melts away. 

Love is all there is, ever was or ever will be...  
 

boomsheeka01
on 12/3/09 2:27 am - Killeen, TX
Wow, you need to patent pend that and get paid! That was so nicely put! I loved it, thanks for putting that in perspective for me! 
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Glamazon
on 12/3/09 2:41 am - Mesa, AZ
You are most welcome boo.  Glad it helped.  (I'll let ya use it for free)! 

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MSW will not settle
on 12/3/09 2:58 am
YES!  This is the hardest project I've ever managed.  I would not say life overall gets harder.  Its the day to day things I gave no thought to that have now become important. 

For example:  As a 30+ years  low carber, I used to order eggs anywhere thinking I was good. 
2 eggs at my house are about 160 cal and I only use Egglands lower cholesterol eggs
I go to Denny's and 2 regular eggs add 80 calories of fat and cholesterol bringing the calories to 240.

I try and keep things in the 1250 calorie range.  Eating those eggs out instead of at home I've used 20% of the day's total calories.  I never even stopped to think of food that way before wls.  I hate tracking but it works.  I'm prone to insane periods of weight gain or protracted stalls.  Details tell me if it is what I'm doing or my metabolism slowing my wl. 

I will have to monitor my eating forever to maintain once I hit goal.  Thats a pain in the @$$.  But for me thats the worst of it.  I can deal with foods I can no longer eat, occaisional dumping etc.  Those are easy for me to work around. 

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 Links:  Are you a compulsive eater?  for help OA meets on-line Keep Coming Back, One Day At a Time  Overeaters Anonymous 

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wendy T.
on 12/3/09 5:11 am - Milwaukee, WI
Is it hard, I like the way Faith put it..Its like a part time job. I will be two years out in a few days. Sometimes I have to go to the basic with my pouch. Yesterday I ate a meal, that i eat every once in awhile and it caused me to get extremely sick. I dont have episodes often, Howvever, I am reminded constantly that although, I am smaller I had gastric by pass surgery.  EVERDAY. I am happy that I did..Yes, would I do it over again. Yea I would. It gets better with time.
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irene council
on 12/3/09 6:09 am
It is not hard to me, but I must admit that I hate wearing spanx and special undergarments to hold stuff up or together...lol! Otherwise, I'm cool! You'll be fine!
  

 

 



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dreadz9093
on 12/3/09 8:35 am - Irvington, NJ
 Yes it is one of the hardest things that I have to do on a day to day basis.  I will tell you don't let anyone tell you that having WLS is the easy way out because it is a process that you have to deal with on a daily.  When you are dieting you can give up and not have any effect other that maybe regain your weight, where as with WLS if you get off the program your suppose to take there are other repecussions other than regaining your weight back. 

With all that said I say the goods out way the bad by a mile and I would do it again.  Not only just to be able to shop in "REGULAR" size clothes stores but to be able to cross my legs and sit indian style (as I am doing right now typing this letter) and the best to see peoples faces when I tell then that this time 2 yrs ago I was over 300 lbs.

So take your new life by the hand and enjoy the ride you are going to be experiencing.

            
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