OT: Not Trying To Mess Up The Love But I Need To Rant

Today is a beautiful day in the BAF neighborhood and I feel the love but I have a rant to get off of my chest that has nothing to do with weightloss or BAF so I put OT in the title.

Ok, I mentioned on a post when someone was asking about natural hair help that I had been reading a group on FB. Well I asked a question to the sistas with natural hair about my dry hair and dry, flaky, itchy scalp. I get some responses and they were nice and one person even told me to look up a certain person that probably has the "type" of hair I have.

Ok, I ask this person via message about my dilemma and let her know that I've been natural for 14 yrs but I still haven't found a "holy grail" of products to wear my curls down with them frizzing anf poofing. She wanted to know my routine and what products I use. Now I don't use any shampoos with sodium laureyl sulphate or anything with silicones in it.

Well.....she writes me back and tells me that my products are all wrong because of the ingredients and I'm ruining my hair by flat ironing it. I told her the pics of me on fb are of my hair flat ironed because I take pics when my hair is like that because my curl pattern is not great yet and I only gets my hair done once every 2 months. She writes me back and says 1 time causes damage that can't be repaired !!!!  OK.  Well I look up the products she suggested and I see on this website that you can get points for referring someone there and the regimine for my hair would cost $108 and I don't work !!!!!

This bothered me and I don't know why. I asked for help, she gave it to me but I guess it was the overtones of it was NOT ok for me to straighten my hair.  I'm grown and this is my hair but I still don't have control over this rat's nest.    Ok it's off of my chest and my hair is still dry and my scalp is still dry, itchy and flaky. Whooooosaaaaaaah

That's why I cut mine all off.  Too much work.  LOL

I hear on you that, I cut mines all off too!  To heyl with it!!

bwahhahhhhh how you go from ranting even inserting the flaming smiley face...to laughing.....LOL

No but for real though sistah is trying to go natural...what cheap products can I use?

Olive oil, coconut oil, shea butter, jojoba oil and vegetable glycerin. There are clips on youtube with great ideas. I had to laugh at the end of my rant because I did ask a question and she did answer it, but I didn't like the commentary.

see?  chris dayum rock effin it up for everybody.  overly inquisitive heffa.  ree gitchu some 3 dolla bergamont (the blue kind) and send ole gurl a clip of you throwin that mane over your shoulda........ in slow dayum motion.  make sure to smile for the camera *ting* lol!!!

seriously i was told that regular hot oil treatments and deep conditioner rebuild hair shafts broken down by heating tools now i'm still bald so you might wanna take that with a grain o salt, but i'm jis sayin....... 

Thank you Marlo. I just want a scalp that is not dry, itchy and flaky. lol  I wasn't wanting to spend my disability check on products that may not work.

Rita as you know I am natural all my life and after trying a million products BAF recommended I found something that is working great for me.  

I will give you info on bl, when I get home.  Don't let me forget.

I have found those chicks on the hair forums to be rude at times, some are ok, but like you I had a few tell me I was screwing my hair up, but my hair is 10 times their length.  Go figure 

Well Lesia, I'm glad it's just not me. lol  Dang, they go hard core.

Yeah they are very protective of their family and not friendly at all.  I asked about a product and was freaking cussed out for not using "pure" ingredients.  

I was thinking dam I must have done something right,  but they don't play. 

Did you post a pic of your hair over there?

They actually have great advice you just have to get "in."