How do you deal with the hurt....

Ahh, the delicate inner-workings of the sibling relationships. Sometimes its good. Sometimes is ain't so good. I'm sorry she vented on you in the middle of Boston Market. So not cool. Whatever happens, I pray that you find peace with whatever the nature of your relationship is after today. 

****Update on dealing with the hurt****

Yesterday, was stressful and hurtful as hell.  About 45 minutes after I got to work my body began to do its own thing.  I was in the Ladies Room the first time for about 30 minutes, and had to make two more trips after that.  After that episode it took all I had in me and prayer NOT to go downstairs to the vending machine and try to buy and eat everything that it contained or that my pouch would tolerate.

After posting here on the boards yesterday, and talking to a few close friends, I was able to calm down and get my head and stomach together.  A cup of hot herbal blueberry tea has never been more comforting.

The ride home was quiet and tension filled; had it not been for the radio Mack Mama, I would have been able to hear the ping in the engine!  Other than me asking her to put out her cigarette before she got in my car....nothing was said.  I don't even think we were breathing the same air!
Earlier in the evening she had been in my office to drop off something to another co-worker.  Normally she would stop by my desk, yesterday I didn't even know she had been their until someone told me. 

Today, I have a few of her things at my desk that I have been using like her space heater, CD's & DVD's which I plan to bag up and put under her desk.  It's going to take me a minute, but my healing has begun.

I will lift up mine eyes unto the hill, from which cometh my help.
     My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth.
The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve the soul.
                                                                              Psalm 121:1-2, 7

I am SO sorry..she really sounds like an unhappy person. Pray for her and for you. You need to talk to her but may need to wait awhile until you can meditate and pray on what to say. (and calm down) Regardless of her issues YOU are NOT her punching bag. And dont dare eat over this! Take care of yourself.

Wow....at least you didn't have a fist fight with your sister like I did yesterday!

I will never talk to my sister again in LIFE.  And if your sister was acting irate like that then she's telling you the TRUTH about how she feels about you.

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Sorry you are having problems with your sister.  I'm in the same boat.  We just started speaking again after a year break.  My sister is older and the only thing I can trace our problems back to is that fact that I was born.  It's been on ever since then based on the stories my mother told.  Tell you had bad it was... I was the fat one at 120 pounds and she weighed 100 pounds.  When I put on all this weight she was hating on me for years.  She saw me two weeks ago and was shocked and didn't care about how much I lost but was concerned about my weight.  I know that I'm smaller than her now but she still tried to say she's wearing a size smaller.  Don't get sucked into the madness.  It used to bother me because she's my only sibling but I've given up on her being a decent sister. 

Just because someone is related to you by blood doesn't mean that you will automatically get along with them.  You don't even get along with every neighbor, coworker, or schoolmate.  So don't think all family members will get along.  I for one know my mother can't stand me.  We just don't get along.  No matter how you slice it we never see eye to eye.  We love each other and we have accepted it.  I am 36 now and I have just learned how to let her be herself.  For years I wanted to argue with her and ask why and how come etc... But one of my coworker's said to me recently "Amanda your mother is not there yet!!"  So you know me with my smart mouth asking well if she is grown woman when will she be there?  And she said I have no idea but today she is not there.  So since then I have learned to just love her for who and what she is and I no longer try to make her a carbon copy of myself.  If she acts petty and mean etc.. I just let her be. I have stopped trying to change her and let her be. And it frees me to just be myself.

Take care
Amanda

OMG!!!! Amanda, sounds like we both come from a disfunctional family...my mother doesn't care
for me either.  Seems that she blames me for my her and my father not being together.  So I
messed up all the way around.