OT: Freaks and Relationships........ yea - you know you wanna read this.....

I would have to agree with cutegirlshawn.

Not everyone is going to feel comfortable with telling "all" their freaky ways up front to their mate.  There are some things that you will hold back just for the sake of being able to blow their mind every once in a while with a little extra sumthin sumthin.

I definitely would be mad if my mate decided to step out to get some extra freaky ish, especially if he didnt run it by me to see if I was game to try it first.  Communication is the key and I feel that you should be bold enough to talk to your mate about the "extra" before stepping out to get it.

Well for me..I was always a bigger freak than my boyfriend...
He admits that he is conservative and does things "traditional". Thats why when we got togather, I blew his mind....He considers me, exotic and XXX because I like to try anything and everything.

Since we have been togather for 3 years now...he is still more conservative than I am but we have introduced alot of things to the bed room, but something he just doesnt get with at all.  He is truly a gentleman, and although hes not the nastiest/freakest man I know..he knows how to get down..and Im happy with him just having good stroke game and me being X rated!

You need to freak together or both enjoy the missionary position.   You can't have extremes and two happy sex partners too. 

I believe in managomy so the fit must be right.  If you're freaking with her (or him?) I don't want you.  If I'm freaking with him. I don't need you. 

Mack Mama,

This is a very good question....the only comment I have is that I know that there are a lot of closet freaks out there. I was one. I got with a very conservative man and was so afraid it would turn him off to show him my true freaky deak. He was into frequency and I was into creativity.... I had tried a few things with him..he was not interested....and I was tired of the same old dull stuff...so that all goes back to compatiblity on all level...not just sexual....we rushed into things...which was the beginning of the end anyway. I think its important for people to get with folks with whom they are compatible ...only problem is that women tend to deal with a double edge sword....

I mean my take used to be that if you show the man the true freak at the onset...he might think...hummmm I dont know...she might step out because shes a BIG ole Freak BUT....

If you hold back....the man might later feel lead astray....just seems like we women have a really hard time no matter the scenario.

So with that all said....the simpliest thing is to just BE OURSELVES! Took a lot of living and learning to figure this one out.
 
Eventually...the best case scenario is FREAK + FREAK or PRUDE+PRUDE...anything else is a recipe for disaster...unless someone does not mind being stepped all over.