Is it the Beauty or the Booty? Or the Heart?

What qualities do you find attractive in a potential life long mate...NOT just someone you date or kick it with but with a future hubby or wife: I've been married twice to EXTREMELY handsome men and I will tella they pretty much lack many qualities that would sustain a good marriage, so my friends and family asked what I see in Erik that I did not see in any other potient guy and I gave them this list....I guess when you are older and wiser, how a guy looks in his jeans is not priority in seeking a lifetime mate... at this point in my life it's the heart and some booty too

These are my list and what I find attractive in a potiential mate in THIS ORDER....what's yours?

These are mine:
1. Honesty
2. Respect
3. Intelligence
4. Job/Income
5. Humor
6. Kindness
7. Warmth
8. Sexual prowess
9. Hygeine
10 Understanding
11. Looks 
12. Passion
13. Sensitivity
14. Patience
15. Generosity
16. Empathy
17. Strength
 

Here ya go:

1. Boobies
2. Sense of humor
3. Boobies
4. Pasion
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4080. Strength
4082. Boobies
4081. Love poetry

darn...well based on your response im out of luck...I swear they all went away when i started to lose weight....good bye ddd's you are missed!!

Triple D's gone after WLS....



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Well...this was surely a STOOPID question for the men coz we all KNOW MEN...could careless how smart a women IS...it's the booty and boobies...duh.....you so silly....but thanks for sharing...

Well I was just clowning around (as usual) but truth be told we men don't usually have a working criteria list in the back of our minds.  I'm not knocking that you ladies may or may not have one, but we, as men, generally don't. 

Part of that is because most of us men are so used to NOT being on any of your lists (or come up short during the check-off phase) until we often tend to end up with the woman who is kind to us, listens to us - especially our corny jokes and adds a few bad ones of her own, and when it's time to get down to the good stuff, she let's herself go (not necessarily doing acts or new things that will probably make her feel degraded afterwards) and she allows all of that passion to burst forth and helps make xes better overall.

Look at the so-called good men in your neighborhood and then look at their women.  I'm willing to bet you that 9 times out of 10 you will say to yourself, "How did HE end up with HER?"  My answer:  See my reasons above.

  

I understand what your saying, but I feel men DO have lists.  They may not be as aware of them as woman, but they do have them.    For me personally, I think as men get to know me and get beyond my physical, I am crossed of their lists.   No, I'm not a biotch or screwed up in the head or ignorant or stupid. I'm not sister super christian or miss perfect either.   Now that I have matured, I can see myself more objectively than I could when I was younger.  I think I am not most men's cup of tea because I really am loving and I run kinda deep and that makes some men uncomfortable and I think honestly, it bursts the "fantasy" balloon they got working in there heads about me.  As you get to know me, I become "real" and not whatever a man fantasy about may have been.  Some like it, many don't.  They just want the pretty girl with the sexy voice.  Not the real woman with a real heart.....

@ They may not be as aware of them as woman, but they do have them.  

My "list" (j/k BTW) is pretty much the only list that we'll have as men, give or take a booty here for a boobie there.  Think about it, we (as cavemen eons ago) used to roll up on a group of women down by the river and grab the ones that couldn't run away fast enough and call her our bride.  She who got captured met our criteria and we were satisfied (all physical needs).  It wasn't until the cavewoman who sat her cave-daughter down on a rock before it was her turn to head on down to the river and get "chosen" that they came up with a list.  

My overall point is that men are generally ruled by visual stimulation first and foremost.  Women tend to value mental stimulation.  Our lists will never match outright.  But we can work together to reach a common happiness.  

 

I agree, our list don't match for the most part.  However, I think as men and woman mature, we come closer together on many things.  Which is one of the few benefits of growing older.

See @Look at the so-called good men in your neighborhood and then look at their women.  I'm willing to bet you that 9 times out of 10 you will say to yourself, "How did HE end up with HER?"  My answer:  See my reasons above.

This IS the same reason people also ask HOW DID SHE END UP WITH HIM...simply because being very hansome or a women being very pretty goes SO FAR...especially when you have to live with them day end and day ....out....hell I know PLENTY women married to FUCKLY men and they still cheat on them, don't help with bills, or don't respect them...