Is it wrong or right

   

  Are you implying that paying the bills overides a childs welfare?  Anything goes as long as he pays the bills?  The background stuff makes it ok to cut loose on a child?

Not buying it.  You never go after a kid when you are out of control.  Even paying bills does not give you that right.  Kids that age will try your patience.  He should stay away from women with kids if he cant deal with them rationally. 

  Thank you!  What does money have to do with it?!

Anytime somebody is so out of control that they will beat a kid over some damned french fries has got issues.  It's not like they were stranded on a desert island and starving to death.  The back of a person's hands has no protective padding.  It's bony.  He hurt that child.

No one has the right to hit someone else's child.  She should of jumped up and said,, and  or did something to come to her childs defense.  There is no telling what he may do when he's alone with the kids.  Some women will put up with anything,, just to have a man around the house.,, but honestly,, I wouldn't consider him a MAN.  More of a dyck head.

 I told he that her son is old enough where he knows if he like this guy or not. I know for a fact that she leave him alone with this guy. I just never new until now what's been going on.

 

Hey Girlfriend,
 
You are spot on correct on this one. 

I have no issue with spanking but by parents not their current love interest.  Besides, there is a difference between spanking as punishment and an out of control adult having a tantrum at the child's expense.  Can you imagine what goes on in private?

You need to talk to your niece about how she allows her children to be treated.  Too many women want a man so badly they put up with anything to keep him.  She may not like you for it but you and the family need to watch those kids closely.  Her boy friend is way out of line here.   

 I did speak up and will continual, This little boy has been through so much. My family had to say something to her ex husband about this same boy. I can tell that she think that it ok for her boyfriend to do this by her response of  he has to learn.


 

He has to learn?  Arrrrgh!!!  Its more like she has to learn.  She needs a parenting class pronto. 

Unfortunately, I feel that you are in the position where you will need to keep a close eye on this situation...especially now that you have witnessed the abuse. Your niece needs to know that not only will the boyfriend be held accountable BUT that she will too. There have been too many instances when kids have ended up DEAD because of a out of control person..parent, stepparent, friend etc.... Does not sound like this man has bonded with this child  in a healthy way. The emotional abuse can be just as damaging as the physical. Please print out and give this article to your niece.

 http://helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_s exual_neglect.htm


Let her know that you love her but that you will not stand idly by and see your nephew abused. You would set yourself up for guilt big time if something happened to him and you did not take action.  Sorry I have to be so direct but YOU are the only person (at this juncture) unless the mom sees the light in a position to help this child.

Child Protective Services will need to be notified if you see the mom not taking the matter seriously ....they will at least monitor the situation first...last resort is to take the kids from the parent....but if nothing else it would put both the mom and boyfriend on alert...that someone is watching them.   

I can tell you care deeply or you would not have started this thread. I will pray that everything resolves itself in the best interest of the child.